Ukuzithethelela kuwuhlelo lokuzindla lapho siqaphela izenzo zethu, imiphumela kanye nobuhlungu obuwumphumela, sicele intethelelo futhi senze izinguquko ezidingekayo zokuziphatha ukuze singaziphindi. Kwesinye isikhathi, abanye abantu abakwazi, okuholela ekwehleni kokusebenza kwabo kwansuku zonke futhi, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuthinte kabi impilo yabo yengqondo.
Lapha sizochaza izizathu zokuthi kungani kukhona abantu abazizwa bengakwazi ukuzixolela, ukubaluleka kokuqhubeka ngempumelelo kulolu hlelo futhi sizokwabelana ngamathiphu okuphumelela. Okulandelayo sizobona ukuthi ungazithethelela kanjani.
Kungani ngingakwazi ukuzixolela?
Ukuzithethelela kuyinqubo esikwazi ngayo ukuthwala umthwalo wokulimaza umuntu, ukuveza ukungakhululeki kwethu kuye futhi sithathe izinyathelo zokulungisa ukulungisa noma ukungasiphindi isimo esiwumphumela, ngaleyo ndlela sifinyelele izinga eliphakeme likanembeza wokuziphatha.
Nokho, ngezinye izikhathi umuntu akakwazi ukuzithethelela. Lokhu kungaba ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukene:
- Amaphutha enziwe adale (noma angagwenywa) ukuwohloka noma ukulahleka kwezimo ezithile empilweni yakho: izinkinga ezingokomzwelo, ubungane obuphukile, ukufa kwabantu, ukuqedwa kwemicimbi ethile, njll.
- I-ego yalo muntu ijezisa kakhulu, ayimvumeli ukuba enze amaphutha futhi imjezise ngawo wonke amaphutha awenzayo. Kulesi sihloko sichaza ukuthi yini i-ego nokuthi isebenza kanjani.
- Abenzeli bangaphandle bahlale besikhumbuza ngesibopho sethu samaphutha: isibonelo, lapho umndeni, abangani noma abantu esibaziyo beqhubeka nokusisola ngokwenzekile.
Kuzo zonke lezi zimo, umuntu akakwazi ukuqala inqubo yokuzithethelela, engabangela umonakalo omkhulu ongokwengqondo ngenxa yecala namahloni.
Ukuzithethelela, kungani kubaluleke kangaka?
Lapho senza amaphutha kumele sizixolele ukuze siqhubekele phambili ngendlela eyakhayo nenempilo. Ukuzixolela akusho ukungazinaki noma ukukhohlwa amaphutha owenzile. Ukuze ukuzithethelela kube ngokoqobo, kuyadingeka ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngalokho okwenzekile futhi senze inqubo yokuzihlola esiholela ekulungiseni amaphutha ngokulungisa ukuziphatha kwethu (kwangaphandle noma kwangaphakathi), ngakho isinyathelo esedlule siyisinyathelo esidingekayo. sizixolele...
Ukukwazi ukuzithethelela ngokuvamile kuncike esicini esithile sobuntu bakho:
- Abantu abakwazi ukuzixolela yilabo abanayo futhi abagcina a ukuzethemba okukhulu, ukwaneliseka kwempilo kanye nempilo yengqondo; bangabantu abaqotho, abanomusa futhi abahle kakhulu ekuthetheleleni abanye.
- Abantu abangavumi ukuzixolela bavame ukuba nokuzethemba okuphansi, amazinga aphezulu okuba necala, ukukhathazeka, nokucindezeleka, kanye nokwaneliseka okuphansi komuntu siqu ngokuphila kwabo. Ngokusho kwakhe UbuBuddha, ukuthethelela ubuhlungu abanye abasizwise bona, nokucela intethelelo ngezenzo zethu ezilimazayo, kuyizenzo ezidingekayo zokuhlanza izingxenye zethu ezingezinhle futhi sisondelane nemvelo yethu yangempela.
Amathiphu okuthi ungazithethelela kanjani
Kulesi sigaba, sizoxoxa ngezindlela zokuzithethelela, ukwelapha ukuthethelela, nokuthi ungazithethelela kanjani ngokungathembeki. Amasu ahlukene noma izindlela zokuzithethelela zimi kanje:
- Hlaziya izizathu. Isibonelo, hlaziya ukuthi yini ebangele ukuthi alondoloze ukungathembeki okusolwayo (ukungeneliseki nozakwethu, ukuziphindiselela, ukuziphatha okungalindelekile nokungabi nangqondo, njll.).
- baqonde izidingo. Isiphi isinyathelo esizosithatha? Sicingani? Ngemuva kwakho konke umnyakazo kumele kube nekhava. Buza futhi uthole ukuthi yini oyidingayo.
- Xhuma nemizwa. Cabanga ngendlela esizizwa ngayo lapho senza lokho esikwenzayo. Endabeni yokungathembeki, zindla ngokuthi isipiliyoni sisho ukuthini kuwe nokuthi ufuna ukwenza kanjani (ukugcina isikhathi futhi okwesikhashana, kukuthatha ngokomzwelo ngale kobudlelwane bomzimba, njll.)
- Zibophezele ngezenzo. Ungabeki izaba noma ucashe. Ukuziphendulela ngezenzo zakho kukwenza ube nesibindi. Ukukuvuma kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokukwamukela futhi ukwazi ukukushintsha. "Ngizizwa njengesinyathelo esibalulekile endleleni eya entethelweni."
- Yamukela imiphumela. Kuleli qophelo, kubalulekile ukwamukela nokuhlonipha imiphumela yezenzo zethu. Endabeni yokungathembeki, isibonelo: ubuhlungu obubangelwa umlingani wethu kanye nezinqumo azenzile, ukuhlukana noma ukuhlukana nombhangqwana, njll.
- Khomba imigoqo. Ukudala uhlu lwezinto ezikuvimbela ukuthi uzixolele uqhathanisa nezinto ongazenza ukuze uzixolele kuyindlela esobala nesebenzayo yokwenza lezo zenzo ezizozuzisa inqubo yokuthethelela.
- Zindla Ukuzindla noma ngeso lengqondo ukucela intethelelo kumuntu olimele kuyosisiza ukuba sizwe ubuhlungu obusizwise ubuhlungu futhi kuzodambisa icala lethu. Lapha ungafunda okwengeziwe mayelana nokuzindla.
- Bona ngeso lengqondo. Zindla noma ucabange ukukhulula icala le-parasitic elisenza sizizwe kabi kodwa elisivimbela ekuthatheni isinyathelo sokulungisa. Lokhu kuzosivumela ukuthi sizibophezele ngokwenzekile futhi sibe namandla adingekayo ukuze sihlawulele umonakalo odalekile. Kulesi sihloko, sichaza amasu okubuka.
- xolisa. Njengesinyathelo sokugcina, kuyadingeka ukuthi uxolise ngamaphutha enziwe, uzixolele futhi uwalungise ngendlela oyikhethayo ngendlela enenhlonipho neyokuqaphela. Endabeni yokungathembeki, uma sinquma ukuqala ubuhlobo obusha nomunye umuntu, buyodalulwa ngendlela enomusa nengokomzwelo. Uma uqhubeka nokuthanda umuntu, uzokwenza ngokufanele ukubuyisela ibhalansi nenjabulo ebuhlotsheni. Uma lokhu kungenzeka lingekho, isimo sizophela, yemukela ubuhlungu obulethayo, kodwa uqhubeke nempilo yakho.
- nxephezela. Ukuqondisa izenzo zakho ukuze ulungise izenzo zakho ezingalungile kuzokwenza kube lula kuwe ukuzithethelela ngokuzimisela ukuguquka.
- I-Hoponopono. Ifilosofi yomsuka wasePolynesia efuna ukuxazulula izingxabano nokuphulukisa ngokomoya ngokuthethelela nothando. Ukuthethelelwa kutholakala ngokuvuma izono, ukuphindiselwa, ukuphenduka, kanye nokuqonda okuqotho.
- Ukwelashwa kokuthethelela. Kuyisiyalo somqondo lapho usebenzisana nabantu abathintekile ukuxolela noma ukuxolisa kwabakuzwise ubuhlungu futhi uzikhulule ekwelapheni ngamaphutha owenzile. Izinyathelo okufanele zilandelwe esimweni sesibili yilezi:
- Qaphela umonakalo obangelwa izenzo zethu.
- Izwa ubuhlungu esibulethayo.
- Hlaziya ukuziphatha kwethu nokuthi kungani sikwenza.
- Thola ezinye izindlela ezisabelayo ukuze kungenzeki futhi.
- Xolisa kumuntu olimele.
- Isinxephezelo somonakalo obangelwe izinguquko ekuziphatheni kwethu.
Ngithemba ukuthi lesi sihloko sibe usizo kuwe. Kodwa-ke, uma uzithola usobishini empilweni yakho njengamanje, ungangabazi ukucela usizo kuchwepheshe, yibona abasisiza kakhulu ukuthi sibhekane nezinkinga esiziphethe kubhaka wethu noma lezo eziqhamuka njengamanje. .