Kukhona izindlela zokulawula ukushuba kwesimo esikhona mihla namalanga, phakathi kwazo kukhona ukuphathwa kwemizwelo. Yingakho lesi sihloko sizochaza yonke into mayelana nale nqubo esiza ngokudala nokuhlala uzolile.
Ukuphathwa Ngokomzwelo
Ukuphathwa kwemizwelo kuqukethe umthamo ongaba nawo ukuhleleka kwemizwelo, kanye nokugcina ukulawula ngendlela efanele ukuze ukuziphatha onakho kulungile kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lwesimo. Ngokusetshenziswa kwalezi zindlela, amathuluzi adingekayo ayatholakala ukuhambisa ukungezwani kwansuku zonke.
Ngale ndlela, ikhono lokukhiqiza imizwa ejabulisayo litholwa ukuze kube namathuba okuba nemicabango efanelekile futhi ngobuqotho ukubhekana nanoma yibuphi ubunzima obungase buvele. Ngakho-ke kungashiwo ukuthi kuwumncintiswano noma ukulingisa kwansuku zonke ngemicabango nezenzo okufanele uzithathe.
Ngokulandelayo, lo mncintiswano wansuku zonke ungahlukaniswa ube imincintiswano emincane eyenzeka nsuku zonke, engasungulwa njengezinhlanga ezimbili ezahlukene. Eyokuqala ikhuluma ngendlela efanele yokukhuluma ngokomzwelo, lapho kwamukelwa khona ikhono lokuba nenkulumo ngomzwelo ofanele nangendlela efanele.
Iphinde iqinisekise izimo ezingokomzwelo ezingatholakala futhi zivezwe ngendlela efanele, kodwa kuphela lezo eziletha intuthuko ekuphileni kwethu, okubhekwa njengemizwelo efanele. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi ivezwe ngendlela efanele njengoba ngezinye izikhathi akwenzeki ukuveza leyo mizwa ejabulisayo.
Kubalulekile ukuthi inkulumo ebonisiwe ibe ngeyabanye kanye neyakhe, ngoba ngale ndlela imizwelo ingalawuleka ngendlela efanele ngokuvumelana nesimo umuntu azithola ekuso. Ngale ndlela, ukuziphatha okufanele kungafinyelelwa, kunikeze umthelela kanye nomfutho esimweni somzwelo umuntu anaso.
Esinye isigaba sisho amandla kanye nekhono umuntu analo ukuze akwazi ukubhekana nesimo esinqunyiwe. Ukungqubuzana kungenzeka noma nini futhi lezi zinselele ezivelayo zikhiqiza imizwa eyahlukene okuyiyona okufanele babe nayo ukuze benze ukuziphatha okufanele.
Njengoba sekushiwo ngaphambili, ukuzindla kusetshenziswa ukuze kube nokuvumelana kwengqondo nomzimba, ukuze ukwazi ukuphumula futhi uhlale uzolile ngemicabango nezinkathazo ongase ube nazo nsuku zonke. Leli su libuye libhekwe njengokuphathwa kwemizwelo okutuswa ukuthi kusetshenziswe njalo.
Ngenxa yalezi zindlela, kungenzeka ukuthi kube nemiphumela oyifunayo, kodwa ayitholakali ngesikhathi esifushane, kodwa njengoba kwenziwa, umthamo omkhulu wokubekezela nokuzithiba utholakala ekuziphatheni kwethu esimweni esithile.
Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi ungahlela kanjani amaphrojekthi akho ebhizinisi, kutuswa ukuthi ufunde i-athikili ye Amaphrojekthi Wosomabhizinisi, lapho kuboniswa khona amathuba angcono kakhulu ebhizinisi kanye namathiphu afanelekile, azoba usizo ekwenzeni noma yiluphi uhlobo lwephrojekthi ofisa ukuwenza.
Amasu angasetshenziswa
Ngalawa masu kukhona izindlela zokunciphisa ingcindezi nokucindezeleka okuthinta amakhono nokuzola, ngakho-ke inhlalakahle yomuntu siqu ingalahleka. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukubaluleka kokulawula imizwa kuyagqanyiswa, okuwukhiye wokwandisa amathuba okuphumelela.
Ngenani elikhulu lemicabango esinayo nsuku zonke, kuvamile ukuba nokungabaza, izifiso, ukwesaba nenjabulo, kodwa into ebalulekile ukuziphatha okutholakala esimweni ngasinye. Ngokusebenzisa amasu okuphatha imizwa, ungakwazi uku-oda le micabango onayo nsuku zonke, ukuze ugcine isimo sengqondo esihambisanayo ngaso sonke isikhathi kanye nomuntu ngamunye.
Kuvamile ukuthi lokhu kuzola abantu abaningi basebenzisa ukuzindla, nokho akubona bonke abantu abakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nale nqubo. Ukuphatha imizwelo kusetshenziswa njengocwaningo olusezingeni lomuntu ukuze umuntu ngamunye ahlole imizwa nemizwelo yakhe njengoba izimo eziqhamukayo zihlukile kwesinye nesinye. Ngenxa yalokho, kukhona futhi ukuphathwa kwemizwelo ezinganeni ukuba yisipesheli endaweni yezingane.
Ngalesi senzo, ungakha imodeli yebhokisi lamathuluzi emicabangweni yakho lapho ungahlela khona imizwa ngayinye onayo, uyinikeze indlela eqondile neguqukayo yomuntu siqu. Njengoba iqondene nomuntu, umuntu ngamunye uyamenywa ukuba azifunele izindlela ezikahle kakhulu, ngoba sonke sihlukile futhi indlela eyodwa ngeke ihlale isebenzela omunye umuntu.
Kungaba nzima ukuhlela ukukhathazeka okuvela ezikhathini zokushuba, yingakho kunconywa ukusebenzisa ukuphathwa kwemizwelo ukuze kube nokuma kwe-multidimensional. Ngale ndlela ungasiza ngokuziphatha okwenzeka ekuziphatheni okuthile, ukuze kunikezwe ukuvumelana phakathi kokuziphatha kanye nemizwa.
Uma ufuna ukwazi izinhlobo zothando ezikhona uyamenywa ukuthi ufunde isihloko ngokuthi Izinhlobo zothando, lapho kuchazwa ukuthi zingahlukaniswa kanjani ngendlela ngayinye okufanele umuntu ayiveze kumuntu, ukuze abonakale futhi aqinisekiswe.
Yingakho amasu okulawula imizwa ayinhloko aqinisekisiwe ngokusebenza kwawo nokusebenza kahle aboniswa ngezansi. Izici eziyinhloko zalezi zindlela ziboniswa futhi ukuze uqonde ukuthi kufanele zisetshenziswe kanjani ngendlela efanele futhi zikhiqize kakhudlwana ezingeni lomuntu siqu:
Izimo okufanele ubhekane nazo futhi uzigweme
- Kunezimo lapho kuba nzima ukubhekana nazo njengoba kungabandakanya imizwa eminingi ngesikhathi esisodwa
- Kodwa uma kunezimo ongakwazi ukuzilawula ukuze ugcine inhlalakahle yomuntu siqu
- Ngendlela efanayo, ukwanda kobuqotho bomuntu siqu kungatholakala ngenxa yokuziphatha okusetshenziswayo.
- Kulezo zikhathi kufanele ukwazi ukulawula imizwa ngoba isimo singaba muncu
- Ngakho-ke isincomo kuleli cala ukuthi uhlale uzolile futhi ubone izindlela ongasisebenzisa ngazo isikhathi.
- Esinye isincomo sokugwema ukuphuma endlini ngesikhathi esifanele ukufuna ukusheshe uvuke, ngoba lokhu iwashi le-alamu libekwe ukusiza ukuvuka ngesikhathi esilungele wena.
- Enye indlela yokunciphisa ithuba lanoma yikuphi ukubambezeleka iwukuba ube nokudla kwasekuseni kanye nokudla okulungile.
- Ngale ndlela, isimo sokukhathazeka okwamanje siyancishiswa futhi lezo zimo ezinezinga eliphezulu lokucindezela nazo ziyagwenywa.
- Ngenxa yokusetshenziswa kwalezi zincomo, impilo ingagcinwa emazingeni anele
- Uma unovalo nganoma yikuphi ukwehluleka kulo mkhuba wokuphatha imizwa
- Kunconywa ukuthi ubhekane nalokhu kwesaba onakho lapho ucabanga ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukukufeza futhi ngaleyo ndlela ukwazi ukunqoba lokho kwesaba futhi ufinyelele izinhloso ozibekele yona.
Thola ukunaka kwakho kwenye indawo
- Kunezikhathi lapho kubhekwa khona ukuthi abanye abantu banokusebenza okuthe xaxa kanye nempumelelo emikhakheni ethile lapho umuntu engabonisi wonke amandla anawo.
- Futhi ngezikhathi lapho unovalo nemicabango emibi kakhulu njengokukholelwa ukuthi uzokwenza ingozi emotweni esetshenziswayo.
- Yilezo zikhathi lapho ukunakekela kufanele kuqondiswe kwenye indawo, kwelinye iphuzu, ukuze ingqondo isuse yonke leyo mizwelo engemihle.
- Ngenxa yokuthi le micabango ikhiqiza imizwa eyandisa ukwesaba nokwesaba kuphela, umphumela uba ukuthi kuba nokuncipha kokuzethemba.
- Ngokusebenzisa le ndlela yokulawula imizwa ungakhuphula ukulawula imizwa nokuzethemba
- Lapho ufunda le nqubo, ungaqonda ukuthi singakuyisa kanjani ukunaka kwethu kwenye indawo ukuze leyo micabango ingami ezingqondweni zethu.
- Ngale ndlela, nawe uyakwazi ukulawula iqiniso nokuthi ukuzethemba kuyanda.
- Yandisa ukuzethemba ngomcabango omusha ngamunye onawo ngokuqondisa ukunaka kwenye indawo
- Kufanele ubheke wonke amaphuzu amahle futhi amahle kulelo phuzu esigxile kulo ukunaka kwethu
- Imicabango elimaza ukuzola kwethu nengqondo yethu yileyo eyehlisa ukuzethemba, ngakho-ke kufanele sibe nesifiso sokuyisusa ukuze sigcine ukuzola nokuzola ezenzweni zethu nasekuziphatheni kwethu.
- Lokhu kubonakala futhi esimweni sethu sengqondo nasekukhulumeni kwethu, ngakho-ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nephuzu eliyinhloko lapho lingahlaziywa ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi nesinyathelo esizothathwa singanqunywa.
- Ibanga eliphawulwa ngokucabangela imicabango nemizwelo ekhona lisiza ekwenzeni ukuthula
- Ngale ndlela, kunesu elisha lapho ubudlelwano phakathi kwengqondo nemizwa nakho konke okukuzungezile buhambisana.
Ukuzithiba emagameni
- Ngale ndlela yokuphatha imizwa, kufunwa ukuthi inkulumo etholakala kunoma yisiphi isimo iyona elula kakhulu.
- Kunezikhathi lapho izimo zimangaza ngendlela yokuthi yonke into ibonakale ekubukekeni ngenkulumo
- Izikhathi eziningi zingaba inkulumo evezwa imicabango elimazayo
- Ngenxa yalokhu, kufanele ube nokulawula okwengeziwe phezu kwezinkulumo ozenzayo.
- Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukugcina ugxile esikhathini esizayo
- Akukhona ukuthi lokho okuphilwa esikhathini samanje akunakwa, kodwa imicabango ibanjwa kanyekanye esikhathini esizayo
- Ngamanye amazwi, kufanele ucabange ngehora elilandelayo, ngakusasa, ngisho nangesonto elilandelayo, ukuze ukwazi ukugxila kulokho okudingeka kwenziwe.
- Kusungulwa icebo engqondweni ukuze ukwazi ukulawula imizwa yakho futhi ungathatheki ngesikhathi sokushuba.
- Ngenxa yokucindezeleka nokwesaba okukhiqizwayo, ungaba nokukhungatheka okuboniswa ekuboniseni ubuso bethu.
- Futhi ukuvumela le micabango nokukhungatheka kungadala isiphithiphithi emicabangweni yethu lapho ingekho indlela yokuphuma kuleyo ndawo yenkinga.
- Kungakho esikhundleni sokucabanga ngezinkinga zangaleso sikhathi, kufanele ucabange ngezixazululo ongaba nazo futhi uzifeze.
- Kumele ukhumbule zonke izimfanelo onazo ongaba nethemba kuzo zonke izinkinga eziqhamukayo
- Yenza uhlu lwamagoli amancane, alula. Ngokuvumelana nenye ngayinye, kwakhiwa izinto ezinkulu ukuze ukwazi ukuthola lokho kuqiniseka kulokho okudingekayo kanye nokulawula izinkulumo.
Yenza amanothi ensimbi
- Noma kunini ungaba nokukhathazeka ukuthi kungenxa yezimo ezincane noma ezinkulu kakhulu.
- Kungalezo zikhathi lapho kufanele kusetshenziswe khona le ndlela yokulawula imizwa
- Amanothi engqondo asetshenziselwa ukukhumbula amaphuzu abalulekile wesimo, kanye nezixazululo ezingaba khona
- Ngale ndlela, izinkathazo azifaki isisekelo emicabangweni yethu.
- Noma nini lapho ukhathazeka, akufanele ugxile kukho, kodwa thola indlela yokuhlala uzolile futhi ulawule.
- Ngemva kokulawula imizwa eyanele, kufanele ucabange ngezimbangela zalokho kukhathazeka kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ubone izimpendulo lezi ezingase zibe nazo.
- Kunconywa ukuthi usungule isikhathi sansuku zonke lapho ungenza khona lokhu kuhlola kwemicabango nezinkathazo oye waba nazo, ukuze ukwazi ukugxila kukho kahle ngaphandle kokuzizwa ukhungathekile.
- Ungase futhi ube neshidi lapho ucacisa khona ukukhathazeka onakho ngaphandle kokumosha isikhathi ukukhungatheka.
- Ngendlela efanayo, izixazululo ezingaba khona zibhalwa kulelo phepha, ukuze ukukhathazeka kungabi yinto eza kuqala emicabangweni yethu.
Misa imiphumela engenzeka
- Kule ndlela yokulawula imizwa kufanele ube nokuzola nokuzola
- Ngemva kokugcina imicabango yakho izolile, kufanele ucabange ngemiphumela engenzeka kanye nemiphumela engatholakala esimweni esithile.
- Kunconywa ukubhala imiphumela isimo esingase siyikhiqize, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi mibi noma emihle.
- Ngale ndlela, isikhathi lapho sigxila kuphela kuleso simo siyagwenywa ukuze isisombululo singatholakali.
- Uma lokho kukhathazeka kuvunyelwa ukuba kube ukuthatheka, kuzoveza ukukhathala kwengqondo nokuncipha kokuzethemba.
- Kungakho umcabango ngamunye kumele wondliwe ukuze kwandiswe ikhono lokwenza
- Lezi zihlukaniswa ngesikhathi kwenziwa ukuhlaziywa kwemiphumela ezotholwa.
- Ngesimo ngasinye ongase ucatshangelwe ngaso, kungenziwa ukukhathazeka okusha, ngakho kufanele uhlale uzolile kulokho okufanele kwenziwe.
- Umzimba kufanele ukhululeke futhi ingqondo kufanele ikhululeke.
