Ukuthanda isilwane kungenye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ezingaba khona ekuphileni futhi, ngokuphambene, ukulahlekelwa kwayo, okunye okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kakhulu. Ngeshwa, ukudabuka ngezilwane ezifuywayo akusaqondwa kahle, ngisho nesihloko esingavumelekile, futhi abantu ababhekana nokulahlekelwa izilwane ezifuywayo bathola ubunzima obengeziwe bokungaqondi kahle komphakathi uma kuziwa ekulileni.
Inja, ikati, inyoni, i-hamster, unogwaja, ufudu ... akuzona nje izilwane, ziyingxenye yomndeni, ngakho-ke ukwehlisa ukulahlekelwa kwabo akusizi ngalutho. Ngenhlanhla, enye ingxenye yomphakathi iyakwazi lokhu, yingakho sifuna ukufaka isandla ekubhekaneni nobuhlungu obubangelwa ukulahlekelwa isilwane sakho esifuywayo ngohlu lwe "imisho emihle yokuvalelisa isilwane sami".
I-duel engaqondakali
Akubona bonke abantu abakwazi ukusungula isibopho sangempela nezilwane ezifuywayo, kodwa labo abazi kahle ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukulahlekelwa okunjalo.
Ukulahlekelwa isilwane sasekhaya kubuhlungu ngempela.Kubuhlungu kakhulu, futhi lokhu kufakazelwa izifundo zesayensi ezifana nalolo olwenziwa uMnyango Wesayensi Yezilwane eNyuvesi yaseHawaii (United States) ngokusho kwawo, “U-30% wabanikazi uzwa ubuhlungu izinyanga eziyisithupha noma ngaphezulu ngenxa yokulahlekelwa isilwane sabo esifuywayo”, ngenkathi"ukuze un Abangu-12% bacabanga isigameko esibuhlungu kakhulu ezimpilweni zabo”. Ngalo mqondo, uDkt. Thelma Duffey (2005) naye uyaqinisekisa evela eNyuvesi yaseTexas (San Antonio), ukuthi " ukulahlekelwa isilwane esifuywayo ngokuvamile kubonakala njengento ebuhlungu.
Ngakho-ke, uma sekucacile kithi ukuthi kuyisililo esisodwa futhi, esibuhlungu esifanayo nesomuntu (ngezinye izikhathi ngaphezulu, ngokusho kobunye ubufakazi), umsebenzi uhlala ukwazisa umphakathi ngobuhlungu obuzwiwa abantu abalahlekelwa kakhulu. ngaphezu kwesilwane. Kubalulekile ukuqeda i-social taboo ekhona ezungeze ukulila ukulahlekelwa kwezilwane ezifuywayo futhi ugweme imishwana efana nalena: "Kwenzenjani, bekuyisilwane nje", "uthola kanjalo ngenxa yokulahlekelwa yinja?", "Hhayi, thatha enye", njll. Zingamagama alimazayo futhi angenazwelo, okuthi, kude nokusiza umuntu ososizini, amlimaze nakakhulu ngoba benza ubuhlungu babo bungasebenzi.
Akekho ongacabanga ukuthi emngcwabeni: "Ukhalelani? Umzali nje...adopt omunye", noma umama oshonelwe ingane, "ungakhali uzoba nomunye". Umuntu ohambayo akabambeki enhliziyweni yalabo abaphoqeleka ukuthi bavalelise. Umama oshonelwe umntwana ngeke alulaphe ubuhlungu bakhe ngokuba nomunye, okungenani hhayi ngokushesha; indodana eshonelwe nguyise ngeke ikwazi ukumbuyisela omunye, njll. Kuyadingeka ukuhlanganisa lokhu kulahlekelwa kukho konke izigaba zokulila futhi-ke kuyoba yisikhathi sokunquma ukuthi uzoyithola yini enye ingane, esinye isilwane esifuywayo...Abanye abantu banquma ukungabe besaba nezilwane, abanye, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, bazithola sebekwazi ukugcwalisa ukuphila kwabo ngothando nge inkampani entsha yezilwane...lokho kuzoba yisinqumo somuntu siqu.
Imisho emihle yokuvalelisa kusilwane sami
Ukuvalelisa ngaphandle kwesibopho hhayi ngokuzikhethela kubuhlungu kakhulu: lapho isilwane sethu sifa, zonke izikhathi esizichitha naso zihamba naso.
Izilwane ziyizidalwa ezihloniphekile nezingenacala ezinikeza uthando olungenamibandela kubanikazi bazo, futhi ukuboniswa okunjalo kokupha kuyafaneleka ukubuyiselwa ngokunakekelwa nothando olungcono kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, lapho behamba, bashiya isikhala esikhulu ezinhliziyweni zethu.
Kwesinye isikhathi ukubhala ijenali kungaba yi-cathartic noma ukufunda imisho nje ukuzwelana nobuhlungu abuzwayo. Ngakho-ke, kusukela Postposmo Sifuna ukukusiza ukuthi udlule kulezi zikhathi ezinzima ngohlu lwazo "imishwana yokuvalelisa enhle kusilwane sami":
- Ungakhali ngoba sekuphelile,mamatheka ngoba sekwenzekile.
- Lapha kuphumula izinsalela zesidalwa esasisihle singenaze, sinamandla singenakwedelela, sinesibindi esingenalo unya futhi sinabo bonke ubuhle bomuntu futhi singenasici sakhe.
- Manje njengoba ungasekho eduze kwami, ngiyethemba ukuthi, noma ngabe ukuphi, uyayizwa imfudumalo yothando lwami. Hhayi-ke, kuyohlala njalo.
- Uyazi ukuthi kungani ngikukhumbula kangaka? Ubungumngani wami selokhu ngazalwa, sakhula sobabili. Ngizohlala nginawe enhliziyweni yami.
- Isifundo esikhulu sothando ngasithola ngumuntu ongakhulumi ulimi olufana nolwami.
- Akekho onjengawe oyokwazi ukuguqula usizi lube injabulo ngendlela elula kangaka.
- Alukho nolulodwa usuku eceleni kwakho lapho izinyembezi zingaphendukanga ukumamatheka.
- Wawuhlezi useduze kwami ebuhleni nasebubini, awuzange ungahlulele. Kakhulu ngokubonga futhi awusekho lapha.
- Lapho ngikhula ngifuna ukufana nawe: umusa, uthando kanye nethemba.
- Bathi alukho uthando olufana nolwenja enkosini yayo. Nokho, uthando lwami ngawe lwalujulile futhi lujulile.
- Ngiyaxolisa uma ngelinye ilanga ngingakwazi ukunikela isikhathi obusidinga noma ngokungakuniki uthando oluningi, namuhla njengoba uhambile ngiyabona ukuthi ubuyigugu kangakanani kimi.
- Ngizokukhumbula ukuvuka nekhala lakho ebusweni bami; uphawu oluhle kakhulu lokuthi kungaba usuku oluhle.
- Lokhu akukona ukuvalelisa kuze kube phakade, ngoba uyohlala usenhliziyweni yami.
- Ubungumngane wami omkhulu futhi uyohlala njalo.
- Ngiyabonga ngokungifundisa ukujabulela ukuphila. Ube uthisha wami omkhulu.
- Nalapho wawungasenamandla, wawungenzela konke.
- Ubulokhu ubaluleke ngaphezu kwabantu abaningi engibaziyo. Ngethemba ukuthi awusoze wakukhohlwa.
- Sasidlala ndawonye, senza ezemidlalo cishe zonke izinsuku futhi ngesinye isikhathi senza okubi okungaphezu kokukodwa. Awazi ukuthi ngiphatheke kabi kanjani ngoba usuhambile, nokho, ngifunde ukuthobeka nokuba nobubele ngiyabonga kuwe.
- Izingelosi azibukeki njengabantu ngaso sonke isikhathi; ngezinye izikhathi zinemilenze emi-4. Namuhla ngiyazi ukuthi ungomunye wabo, mngane.
- Zindla ekushoneni kwelanga, ubheke izinkanyezi futhi uphulule inja yakho. Kuyikhambi elingenaphutha.
- Akekho owathi ngizolahlekelwa nguwe maduze nje, ngikukhumbule kakhulu mngani.
- Akunandaba ukuthi isilwane singacabanga. Siyazi ukuthi bangahlupheka, futhi ngenxa yalokho nje kufanele kakade sibathathe njengomakhelwane bethu.
- Izinja kungenzeka kungabi impilo yakho yonke, kodwa zenza impilo yakho iphelele.
- Ngiyazi ukuthi usendaweni lapho ungasaphathwa yileso sifo esakususa kithi, siyakukhumbula kakhulu.
- Uma kufanele ngikhethe umuntu engimethembayo... bengingakhetha inja yami. Kuze kube manje uyena yedwa ongatsheli muntu izimfihlo zami.
- Ngikuthumela ukwanga ezulwini, ngoba ngiyazi ukuthi kusukela lapho usengumngane wami omkhulu.
- Umngane weqiniso ushiya uphawu enhliziyweni yakho.
- Lonke ulwazi, yonke imibuzo nezimpendulo... zitholakala enjeni.
Inkondlo ekhuthazayo: Amavesi amahle ka-Pablo Neruda enja yakhe eshonile
Uma kukhona okwazile ukubhala ngobuchule obukhulu abanye "imisho emihle yokuvalelisa esifuyweni sami" lowo kwakunguPablo Neruda, owanikezela inkondlo enhle enja yakhe ngemva kokufa kwakhe. Asikwazanga ukuvalelisa ngaphandle kokukunikeza ukuzinikela okunjalo okungokomzwelo, sethemba ukuthi uzokujabulela:
Inja yami yafa.
Ngamngcwaba engadini
eduze komshini omdala ogqwalile.
Lapho, hhayi ngaphansi,
noma ngaphezulu,
Ingabe uzohlangana nami ngesinye isikhathi?
Manje usevele wahamba noboya bakhe,
ukudelela kwakhe, ikhala lakhe elibandayo.
Futhi mina, umuntu othanda izinto ezibonakalayo ongakholwa
esibhakabhakeni esithenjisiwe sasezulwini
ngaphandle komuntu,
lenja noma zonke izinja
Ngiyakholwa ezulwini, yebo ngiyakholwa ezulwini
lapho engingayikungena khona, kodwa uyangilinda
enyakazisa umsila wayo
ukuze uma ngifika ngibe nabangane.
Ey ngeke ngisho usizi emhlabeni
lokungasenaye umngane
ukuthi kimi akukaze kube iseva.
Wayenobungani be-hedgehog kimi
owabugcina ubukhosi bakhe,
ubungane benkanyezi ezimele
ngaphandle kobumfihlo obungaphezu kokudingekile,
akukho ihaba:
akazange agibele ku-wardrobe yami
ukungigcwalisa ngezinwele noma utwayi,
alizange lingihlikihle edolweni
njengezinye izinja ezithanda ucansi.
Cha, inja yami ibingibhekile inginika ukunakwa okufanele
ukunakwa okudingekayo
ukwenza okuyize ukuqonda
ukuthi uyinja,
ngalawo mehlo, acwenge kunawami,
wamosha isikhathi, kodwa wangibuka
ngokubukeka engangigcinelwe mina
konke okumnandi, impilo yakhe enoboya,
impilo yakhe ethule,
eduze kwami, ungangihluphi,
futhi ngaphandle kokungibuza lutho.
Oh kukangaki ngifuna ukuba nomsila
ehamba naye ogwini lolwandle.
ebusika base-Isla Negra,
endaweni enkulu yokuba yedwa: phezulu emoyeni
ukweqa izinyoni zeqhwa
futhi inja yami iyagxuma, shaggy,
igcwele i-voltage yasolwandle ehambayo:
inja yami edukayo nehogelayo
ephakamisa umsila wakhe wegolide
ebheke olwandle namagwebu alo.
jabula, jabula, jabula
njengoba izinja zikwazi ukujabula,
kungekho okunye,
nge-absolutism yemvelo engenamahloni.
Akukho ukuvalelisa kwenja yami efile.
Futhi akukho manga phakathi kwethu.
Wahamba vele ngamngcwaba, kwaba njalo.