Ukuba ufikile apha kungenxa yesinye sezi zizathu zibini, mhlawumbi unomdla wokufumanisa ukuba yintoni injongo yakho ebomini, okanye ngokwemigaqo yefilosofi evela kwinqwelomoya ngokubanzi. Nokuba yintoni na eye yathimba ingqalelo yakho, impendulo yalo mbuzo ayiqinisekanga kangako. Hayi ngenxa yokuba ayinakuchazwa, kodwa ngenxa yokuba oku yahluka kumntu obuza umbuzo.
Kweli nqaku awuyi kufumana kuphela iindlela zokufumanisa ukuba yintoni injongo yakho ebomini okanye ngokubanzi, kodwa nalapho le mfuneko yempendulo ivela khona. Ndiyathemba ukuba kuyo, unokusombulula amathandabuzo akho kwaye iya kukunceda.
Luyintoni usukelo ebomini?
usukelo ebomini zezo njongo esinokuzisukela ngethemba lokuzifeza nezithi ke zona zinikezele intsingiselo kubukho bethu. Kukho iinjongo zexesha elifutshane nezexesha elide. Ngokulandelayo, banokuqala ukusuka kweyona nqwelomoya yobuqu, oko kukuthi, isiqu sakho ngokubhekiselele kwihlabathi, ukuya kwezinye izinto ezingenamsebenzi ezichaphazela ubomi bemihla ngemihla.
Nangona kuyinyaniso ukuba asizizo zonke izinto esizibekela usukelo olufanayo, ezinye azifanelekanga kangako kunezinye. Kwaye kukuba kwindawo yokuqala, injongo kufuneka yenze ingqiqo kuwe, hayi kwabanye. Oku kunqabile ekuqaleni, kodwa kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba umntu ngamnye unobomi obahlukileyo kunye nomxholo. Le njongo yokuzimela yinyaniso yakho, kwaye loo nyaniso yinto enengqondo kuwe.
Njengesicwangciso ngokubanzi, kukho i-axioms esebenzayo kulo lonke uhlobo. Olu didi lunanjongo luni? Ukuvelisa, ngaphandle kokuqhubeka, kuba ukuba siqala ukuhlalutya iinkalo ezahlukeneyo sibona ukuba zisabela kuphela kwindlela yethu yokuziphatha yendalo.
Ndilufumana njani olwam usukelo ebomini?
Ngoku sinolwazi olugqithisileyo. Kuyaziwa, kwaye kuya kuxoxwa ngokuqhubekayo, ukuba ulwazi oluninzi olufikelela kuthi alunamsebenzi kwaye alunamsebenzi. Kwelinye icala, oku kuxutywe neenkcukacha ezibangela umdla kuthi nezinokuba luncedo kwiinjongo zethu. Nokuba zezemisebenzi, ukuzinceda, ezenkolo, ubugcisa, ezenzululwazi okanye nasiphi na isihloko onomdla kuso. Noko ke, emazantsi eentliziyo zabo, ngaba bayaphendula ngoko usukelo lwakho ebomini?
Yonke into ekwenza wonwabe, ekukhuthazayo okanye ekwenza ube nemincili, inokukunika iimpawu malunga nokuba zeziphi iinjongo zakho. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe ziinjongo zomsebenzi, maxa wambi banokunceda abantu bobabini, indlela yokuba nabahlobo, okanye ukwenza nje umsebenzi womculo. Eyona ngxaki iphambili oza kujongana nayo kukudibanisa nesiqu sakho sokwenyani, isiqu sakho njengomntu.
Siyimbumba yeenkolelo, kwaye uninzi lwazo alusekelwanga koko siye sahlangabezana nako, esikufundileyo, esikubonileyo okanye esikuvileyo. Kwelinye icala, into ongayithandiyo isenokungangqubani neenjongo zakho zokwenyani, kuphela kwizinto ozikholelwayo okanye ozikhuselayo. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba uzimele kwingxolo, zithobe kunye nawe kwaye ucinge, "Ziziphi izinto ezibaluleke ngokwenene kum?»
Ngubani okuncedayo ukhethe iinjongo zakho ebomini?
Into eyenzekayo kukuba amathandabuzo ethu aphelela kweyona meko imbi kakhulu ekubangeleni ingxaki ekhoyo. Ekugqibeleni sinokukhangela imithombo ukusinceda okanye ukubonisana namaqela esithathu. Kwenzeka ntoni kwezi meko kukuba esi sisombululo, esinokuba sesokwethutyana, sikujikele. Oko kukuthi, unokuba njani njengenjongo ebomini into oyinikwe ngumntu ongenguye wena. Iba likrele elintlangothi-mbini.
Kukwakho nemithombo apho bakuqinisekisayo ukuba baya kukunceda ufezekise “iinjongo zakho ebomini”, emva koko babhekisele kwimiba yabasebenzi okanye yezoqoqosho. Ewe, liyinyaniso elokuba, ukuba nomsebenzi okukhuthazayo noqoqosho oluzinzileyo kuyathuthuzela kakhulu. Kodwa ukusuka apho ukuya ekuvumeni ukuba ulapha njengesiphelo semali okanye umsebenzi, kufana nokuzibhubhisa kwaye uvume ukuba kuphelile, ukuba ixabiso lakho eliphezulu liphela apha.
Kukwakho namaqela abantu, abanomdla owahlukahlukeneyo. Ngamanye amaxesha akulula njengokuziva ungomnye weqela elinomdla kunye nezinto zokuzonwabisa, kodwa ukwazi ukuba ungowaphi na. Ngokuba Kuqhelekile ukuziva ungowezinto ezininzi. Into endizama ukuyithetha ngale nto yeyokuba awubambi umngxuma wehobe, okanye ubengcono okwangoku, ungaze ube nehobe ngenxa yakho. Ingcinga yakho iphuma kuwe, kwaye ingcebiso, nokuba yamkelwe kakuhle kangakanani na, ayinakusoloko ikunceda. Le yinxalenye yomsebenzi wakho.
Indlela yokumakisha umendo wakho
cinga ngakwicala ungathanda ukuzifumana phi kwiminyaka embalwa kwaye uhambe ngayo. Injongo akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yinjongo enokufikelelwa xa uyifezekisa. Kukho iindidi ezininzi, njengoko kukho abantu, kwaye kunzima ukufumana eyakho ukuba ujonga omnye umntu ekunokwenzeka ukuba akazange abe namava afanayo. Kwaye kuyinto ebalulekileyo ukuyiqonda, ukuze ukuthanda kwakho kungabi phantsi kothelekiso olubi. Ndiyazi ukuba oku kuhlobene kakhulu, kodwa ndiza kukunika umzekelo.
Ukuba ubungumntu onesiphiwo sabantu abathi nabo bathande indalo, unokufuna ukujoyina okanye ude wenze umbutho okhusela okusingqongileyo okanye i-ecosystem ethile. Injongo yakho kukugcina i-ecosystem, kwaye leyo yinjongo yakho ebomini, kwaye unokuwenza umsebenzi wakho. Nangona kunjalo, loo njongo iya kuhlala ihleli, kwaye uya kukhuthaza abanye abantu ukuba balandele indlela yakho ngomhla othatha umhlala-phantsi, okanye hayi.
Okubalulekileyo kukuba yazi ukuba leliphi izibuko oya kulo, yazi into oyifunayo, kwaye ube yile nto uyiyo. Izinto ezinomdla ziya kubonakala kuzo zonke iindlela, kodwa zibaleke ezo zinto zingahambi nawe kwaye zingakuphathi kakuhle. Ngaphandle kokuziva unelisekile, ukuziva uqhuba kakuhle yinto ekwanelisa ngakumbi. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba i-ego kunye namampunge angazifihli iinjongo zakho, ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukujongana nokuba nobuntu obunzima ngakumbi kwabanye.
