Kwesinye isikhathi ingane ibonisa uthando oludlulele ngomama kanye nentukuthelo ngakuyise, ingase idlule esigabeni sokukhula kwengqondo esaziwa nge-Oedipus complex.. Lokhu kubonakala ezinganeni ezineminyaka engu-3-7 ubudala futhi kuyisigaba esivamile sokukhula ngokomzwelo kwengane.
Lapha sichaza okwengeziwe mayelana ne-Oedipus complex, izibonelo, ukuthi kungani ibonakala nokuthi sisabele kanjani kuyo.
Kuyini lokhu?
I-Oedipus complex iwumqondo we-psychoanalytic theory eyakhiwe ngu-Sigmund Freud, owacaphuna kuqala encwadini yakhe ethi "The Interpretation of Dreams". UFreud wasebenzisa izinganekwane zamaGreki ukuze achaze umqondo wakhe. Kulokhu endabeni yothando phakathi kuka-Oedipus nomama wakhe. Waze wabhekana nokubulala uyise uqobo, iNkosi yaseThebes, ukuze athathe indawo yakhe, waze washada nomama wakhe uqobo, iNdlovukazi uJocasta.
Ngokusho kuka-S. Freud, le nkimbinkimbi iwumthombo oyinhloko wokuthuthukiswa kwazo zonke izifo ze-neurotic. Ukubhekana nalolu daba kuzoba ukhiye wempilo yengqondo yomuntu, futhi ukungawunaki lo mqondo kungaholela emiphumeleni ebuhlungu kakhulu. Endabeni yobulili besifazane, ibizwa ngokuthi i-Electra complex, lapho intombazane inothando lwe-platonic ngobaba. Nakuba ithola igama elehlukile, indlela yokusebenza iyafana.
Izifunda ezintathu ze-complex
I-Oedipus complex ingazibonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukene: i-a isimo sengqondo sokuzonda abobulili obufanayo, abobulili obuhlukile, noma bonke ubulili. Ngenxa yalokhu kuhlaziya, uFreud wathola izifunda ezintathu eziyisisekelo. Ake sikucabangele ngesibonelo somntwana:
- Okuhle. Lena inkimbinkimbi lapho ingane ikhangwa khona abobulili obuhlukile, kodwa ibonisa isimo sengqondo esinobutha ngobulili bayo (ingane ilangazelela unina, hhayi uyise).
- Okubi Abafana bakhangwa ukumelwa kobulili obufanayo kodwa banezimo zengqondo ezingezinhle ngabobulili obuhlukile (abafana bangabangane noyise, kodwa abananhlonipho ngonina).
- Kugcwele. Ingane inolaka kubo bobabili ubulili (ingane inomona futhi izonda bobabili abazali).
Iyini i-Oedipus complex?
Ukuthi iyini i-Oedipus complex inganqunywa ngokuziphatha kwezinye izingane kanye nabantu abadala. Ukubukeka kwayo kungase kuhlobane nezici zomntwana ngamunye, uhlamvu nokuziphatha kwabazali, izinga lemfundo kanye nezinga lenkululeko yemvelo. Izimpawu zokubonakaliswa eziyisisekelo ziyizi:
- Ukucasuka Ingane ihlale ithukile. Ngagajwa imizwa engemihle: intukuthelo, inzondo, umona, ukucasuka. Le mizwa iyaxuba futhi ibangele ukusabela okungafanele.
- Izimfuno ezidlulele, ngokufisa. Ingane yenza noma yini edingekayo ukuze inakwe umzali oyedwa noma ababili (kuye ngokuthi hlobo luni lwenkinga). Ukhombisa ukucasuka noma nini, ahluleke ukuzibamba futhi anqabe ukwenza imisebenzi yakhe yansuku zonke.
- Ubunzima bokuhlukanisa. Izingane zingacindezeleka kakhulu lapho zihlukaniswa nezibalo zazo ezinamathiselwe. Akakwazanga ukukwamukela ukuthi uyise amthandayo ngeke asondele kuye okwesikhashana. Izingane ziba novalo, zikhala futhi zihluleke ukuzibamba.
- Yenqaba ukuxhumana. Izingane ezibonisa i-Oedipus complex ngokuvamile ziyenqaba ukuxhumana nontanga yazo. Ufuna ukuba nomama noma uyise ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba ukuba khona kwakhe ngokushesha kuphela kungenza umntwana azizwe ezolile futhi ephephile.
Amathiphu e-Oedipus complex ebuntwaneni
Ukuvimbela le nkimbinkimbi ukuthi ithinte ukukhula okufanele kwengqondo nemizwa yezingane, ochwepheshe batusa ukulandela imihlahlandlela engezansi:
- Khuluma iqiniso njalo.
- Ungalokothi unikeze ulwazi olwengeziwe ngale kwalokho okucelwe yingane yakho.
- Izingane kufanele zibe nendawo yokuhlala, indawo ezinikeza ubumfihlo.
- Ubaba kufanele achazele ingane ukuthi kungani engenakushada nomama.
- Gwema izinkulumo zothando phakathi kwabalingani phambi kwezingane, njengoba kungandisa umona wabo.
- Gwema ukuncintisana ngokunakwa kwebele. Hlukanisani isikhathi senu nobabili ukuze kungakhuliswa imizwa engemihle ngoyise.
- Abazali bayelulekwa ukuba bachithe isikhathi esengeziwe nezingane zabo futhi banike isikhathi ezintweni abafana ngazo nengane njengokudlala, ukuhamba...
- Gwema ukugxeka, ukwahlulela noma ukwenza inhlekisa izimo zengqondo nokuziphatha okucasulayo inkimbinkimbi yengane ye-Oedipus, akubheka njengento evamile, ngisho noma kubonakala kuyinqaba noma kungenangqondo kumuntu omdala. Yamukele njengoba injalo.
Izici eziyinhloko ze-Oedipus complex esigabeni sabantu abadala
Uma ukunamathela okuqinile kumama kunganqotshwa ngokwemvelo lapho umuntu ehamba ebuntwaneni, indlela yokuziphatha ye-Oedipus complex complex iqala. Lesi simo singadalwa yizindlela zokukhulisa izingane ezingalungile, okuhlanganisa nomama abavikela ngokweqile.
Kwezinye izimo, akulula ukubona izimpawu zokunamathelana ngoba zenzeka ngendlela ekhethekile phakathi kukamama nengane. Okusho ukuthi, umuntu angaba nokuphila okusobala okuzimele, kodwa izinqumo zakhe ziyosekelwe ebuhlotsheni nomama wakhe.
Iningi lezimpawu ezibonwa emadodeni ane-Oedipus complexes zigxile ku- ukungqubuzana ukusungula ubudlelwano obuseduze. Ezinye zalezi zici kungaba yilezi ezilandelayo:
- Ukwesaba ukusondelana nabanye.
- Bafuna ubudlelwano nabantu abadala.
- Banobunzima bokugcina ubudlelwano.
- Bashintsha ozakwethu njalo.
- Kunzima ukuthola ukuzimela kwezomnotho.
- Okulindelwe okungafezeki othandweni.
- Bona ngokwabo bacekela phansi ubudlelwano babo.
- Ukungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi kwemvelaphi yengqondo.
- Bathembele komama babo ukuthi bazenzele izinqumo.
- Ukuncoma kukaPlato kumama wakhe.
Iyini imiphumela ye-Oedipus complex yabantu abadala?
Njengoba sishilo, inkimbinkimbi ye-Oedipus ivamile kuze kufike eminyakeni ethile. Kodwa lapho ubuntwana sebudlulile, intsha kudingeka ithembele kancane konina futhi ithuthukise ubuhlobo obungcono noyise.
Eminye imiphumela yokunganqobi ukunamathela kwengane kumama ingase ibe okulandelayo:
- Ayikwazi ukufeza imigomo yomuntu siqu.
- Uvame ukuba nezingxabano ezishubile nezingxabano nomlingani wakho.
- Ukubekezelela okuphansi kokuhlehla.
- Kunzima ukuzimela.
- ukungavuthwa ngokomzwelo
Imiphumela eshiwo ngenhla ihlotshaniswa nezinkinga zokuzethemba ezingagwenywa ngomqondo wokuvikela omelelwa isithombe sikamama. Inkimbinkimbi ye-Oedipus engaxazululiwe ivimbela amadoda ukuba ashiye indawo yawo yokunethezeka futhi abe amakhosi okuhlangenwe nakho kwawo siqu. Ngakho-ke, uma inkinga ikhona, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi imvelaphi yayo, into eyisisekelo kakhulu ukuyiphatha ngosizo lochwepheshe.
Ngakho-ke ukubaluleka kokuthi obaba nomama bahloniphe ingane yabo njengomuntu ozimele ngokuphelele. Ingane kufanele isize ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu futhi ivumelane nomphakathi, lapho izokhula khona kusasa. Ngethemba ukuthi lesi sihloko sibe usizo kuwe.