Ungase ucabange ukuthi ikati lakho ngizama ukukugwema noma ukubaleka ngoba uthathe uhambo, noma ngisho nokuthi uthanda ukukukhokhela isikhathi oshintshe ngaso ukudla ayekuthanda kakhulu komunye umkhiqizo. Kodwa empeleni amazwi ukuziphindiselela namagqubu Abayona ingxenye yesilulumagama sakho. Kunabantu abaningi abafuna usizo kochwepheshe ngombono wokuthi ikati labo lizizwa liziphindiselela noma licasukile nokuthi lezi yizizathu zokuziphatha okubi kwekati.
Ezinye zezinto ezicatshangelwayo yimisho enjengokuthi: “Njalo uma ngihlala izinsuku ezimbalwa ngingekho ekhaya, uyazikhulula embhedeni ukuze angibonise intukuthelo yakhe”, noma “ushiya zonke izindonga ziphawulwe ngoba angimvumeli. phuma uye kuvulandi uma lina." ". Kodwa, ngempela ikati libuyisela izinto ezimbi kithi?.
Amakati enza abantu
Kungokwemvelo ukuthi sivame ukwenza ubuntu noma izenzo zamakati ethu. Futhi cishe njalo ukubanikeza imizwa yomuntu akuwona umqondo omuhle. Umuntu uvamise ukuba namawala, futhi sihamba ngemizwa futhi lomuzwa wokuxhamazela, ngakolunye uhlangothi, amakati anyakaza ukuze aphile. Cishe yonke into abayenzayo empilweni yabo iwukuba baphile. Futhi kuyiqiniso ukuthi amakati anenkumbulo eyilungelo uma kuqhathaniswa nezinye izilwane, kodwa awanayo imizwa yokuziphindiselela noma i-rancor. Okungenzeka ukuthi zibalekela izindawo, abantu noma izenzo ezithile uma zibuyisa izinkumbulo ezimbi.
Lapho sithi amakati anenkumbulo enhle, sasibhekisela kukho kokubili inkumbulo yesikhashana neyesikhathi eside. Amakati angakhumbula izinto cishe imizuzu eyi-10, okuhle uma besaba into, ngoba emva kwaleso sikhathi ngeke besayikhumbula. Kodwa uma lokho okubathusayo kubahlukumeza, leyo mizuzu yenkumbulo iphenduka iminyaka.
Hlobanisa izenzo nemizwa
Noma kunjalo, nakuba ucwaningo luye lwenziwa ngenkumbulo yamakati, bobabili odokotela bezilwane kanye nochwepheshe ekuziphatheni kwezilwane bayavuma ukuthi akuyona yonke into eyaziwayo noma eqondwayo mayelana nekhono lokukhumbula amakati ethu anoboya. Abanye bathi amakati abo ayakwazi ukukhumbula kokubili izinto ezinhle (injabulo) nezinto ezimbi (ubuhlungu) isikhathi eside. Ngokwesibonelo, bayakwazi ukukhumbula ukuthi uma benza okuthile esibafundise kona, umvuzo wabo uba khona. Bahlobanisa leyo “nto” nokuthile okujabulisayo.
Kunalokho, kwenzeka okuphambene lapho sifuna ukuyisa izingane zethu kudokotela wezilwane. Bamatanisa ophethe nokuya emtholampilo wezilwane kanti uma beyibona bavele bazithole zonke izinkinga ngoba bayihlanganisa nento engathandeki.
Akuyona impindiselo noma intukuthelo, ukwesaba nokuvikelwa
Isisusa esihlala sikhona kusukela ekuzalweni kuya ekufeni ukwesaba kanye nomuzwa wemvelo wokuzivikela kulokho okungase kubalimaze. Amakati awazi ukuthi liyini igqubu. Uma banalezo zindlela zokuziphatha ezixakile (noma ezehlukile kokujwayelekile) futhi sicabanga ukuthi igqubu, kumane kuwukuthi bayesaba noma ukuthi bavikela okuthile. Amakati aphakathi nendawo yochungechunge lokudla njengazo zombili izilwane ezidla ezinye izilwane, ngakho-ke aqaphe kakhulu ngokuphepha kwawo kunokuba inja iqaphe.. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ikati lakho lenza ngenxa yentukuthelo noma intukuthelo, cabanga ngendlela elizizwa ngayo nokuthi lifuna ukukutshela ini. Bhekisisa kahle ubone ukuthi yini ayisabayo futhi yini engamenza angaziphathi kahle. Ngakho ungathola ukugxila kokucindezeleka futhi ukuqede.
Zonke lezi zinkinga zokuziphatha zingaba izimpawu zenkinga yokukhathazeka eyenza ikati lakho lihlupheke ngokungenasidingo. Uma singawuphathi lowo muzwa wokukhathazeka, isimo sokucindezeleka singaba sibi kakhulu futhi lokho kungaholela ngisho nasekuhlaseleni ikati. Ngaphandle kwalokho, isimo esicindezelayo sizoletha izinkinga zokugaya ukudla, inhliziyo nesikhumba. Lapho ukwesaba nokukhathazeka kuphathwa ngokushesha, ngokushesha zonke lezi zinkinga zingagwenywa.
Ukufunda
Ngaphandle kokuhlalisana kwabantu kanye nezinkumbulo ezingenzeka zokuhlukumezeka noma izinjabulo okungenzeka ukuthi liye lahlupheka, ikati ngalinye linobuntu nobuntu balo, obufana nabantu. Amanye amakati anomphakathi kakhulu kunamanye Akusho ukuthi abanye bangcono kunabanye. Nakuba ukuba nobudlelwane noma ukudlala kwenza abantu babahlukanise phakathi kwabahlakaniphe kakhulu. Njengoba singabona ohlwini lwezinhlobo zamakati ezihlakaniphe kakhulu... kodwa lokho kungenxa yokuthi akukaziwa ukuthi kulinganiswa kanjani ubuhlakani bekati. Uma ufuna ukwazi izinga lezinhlobo zezinsikazi ezihlakaniphe kakhulu, funda lokhu okuthunyelwe: Izinga lamakati ahlakaniphe kakhulu
I-parendizaje yekati impilo yakhe yonke futhi ubuntu babo bubenza bazizwe benqatshwa kakhudlwana noma kancane uma bezizwa bebodwa noma besaba. Isibonelo esisheshayo okufanele sisiqonde yilapho sifuna ukufuya ikati elesabekayo nelingathembani, njengoba liwukuboniswa okungafunwa kothando, elizokwenza ukukhombisa ukuziphatha kokulahlwa. Esinye isibonelo yilesi lapho isiluma futhi siyeka ukuyiphulula. Uma ikati lazi ukuthi uma lisiluma asisaliphululi, noma nini lapho siyeka ukuliphulula livele lisilume. Kuyoba uphawu lwakhe ngathi ukuthi siyeke ukwenza lokho angasafuni sikwenze. Singase sicabange ukuthi ukuziphatha okubi, kodwa usanda kufunda ukuthi isenzo-ukusabela.
Izinto abazenzayo ngenxa yothando futhi sicabanga ukuthi ukuziphindiselela
Izikhathi eziningi, uma sichitha isikhathi esiningi singekho ekhaya singathola umcamelo ugcwele izinwele, noma okubi nakakhulu, ibala lomchamo noma amabhola e-poop phakathi kwamashidi, futhi ngaleso sikhathi sicabanga ukuthi ikati liyasizonda. Kodwa akukho lutho olungaphezu kweqiniso, ukuxuba iphunga lakhe nelakho kwenza ikati elicindezelekile futhi elisabayo lizizwa lizolile futhi likhululekile.
Uma befutha umchamo ezindongeni, akukhona ukuthi banemikhuba emibi kodwa yindlela ukuvikela indawo yabo.