Yintoni i-Oedipus complex?

Ngamaxesha athile Umntwana ubonisa uthando olugqithisileyo kumama kunye nomsindo ngakuyise, unokuhamba kwinqanaba lokukhula kwengqondo eyaziwa ngokuba yi-Oedipus complex.. Oku kubonakala kubantwana abaphakathi kweminyaka emi-3-7 ubudala kwaye linqanaba eliqhelekileyo lokukhula ngokweemvakalelo zomntwana.

Apha sichaza okungakumbi malunga ne-Oedipus complex, imizekelo, kutheni ibonakala kunye nendlela yokusabela kuyo.

Yintoni na?

I-complex ye-Oedipus yingcamango ye-psychoanalytic theory eyenziwe nguSigmund Freud, owaqala ukuyikhankanya kwincwadi yakhe ethi "Ukutolikwa kwamaphupha". UFreud wasebenzisa iintsomi zamaGrike ukuchaza ingcamango yakhe. Kule meko kwibali lothando phakathi kwe-Oedipus nomama wakhe. Wada waya kujongana nokubulala uyise, uKumkani waseThebes, ukuba athathe indawo yakhe, wade watshata nonina, uKumkanikazi uJocasta.

Ngokutsho kuka-S. Freud, le ngxaki ngowona mthombo wophuhliso lwazo zonke izifo ze-neurotic. Ukujongana nalo mbandela kuya kuba sisitshixo kwimpilo yengqondo yomntu, kwaye ukutyeshela le ngcamango kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi kakhulu. Kwimeko yesini sesini, ibizwa ngokuba yi-Electra complex, apho intombazana inothando lweplatonic kumfanekiso kayise. Nangona ifumana igama elahlukileyo, indlela yokusebenza iyafana.

Amazwe amathathu e-complex

I-complex ye-Oedipus inokuzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: yi isimo sengqondo sokuchasa abantu besini esifanayo, abesini esahlukileyo, okanye zonke izini. Ngenxa yolu hlalutyo, uFreud wafumanisa amazwe amathathu asisiseko. Makhe siqwalasele oko kumzekelo womntwana:

• Okuhle. Oku kuyinkimbinkimbi apho umntwana utsaleleka kwisini esahlukileyo, kodwa ubonisa isimo sengqondo esichasayo kwisini sakhe (umntwana ulangazelela unina, kungekhona uyise).
• Ukungalungi Amakhwenkwe atsaleleka ekufanekiseni abantu besini esifanayo kodwa banesimo sengqondo esibi ngabantu besini esahlukileyo (amakhwenkwe athandana nooyise, kodwa akanambeko koonina).
• Igcwele. Umntwana uba ndlongondlongo kwizini zozibini (umntwana unomona kwaye ubathiyile bobabini abazali).

Yintoni i-Oedipus complex?

Yintoni eyinkimbinkimbi ye-Oedipus inokumiselwa ngokuziphatha kwabanye abantwana kunye nabantu abadala. Ukubonakala kwayo kunokuhambelana neempawu zomntwana ngamnye, umlingiswa kunye nokuziphatha kwabazali, inqanaba lemfundo kunye neqondo lenkululeko yokusingqongileyo. Iimpawu eziphambili zokubonakaliswa zezi:

• Ukucaphuka Umntwana uhlala exhalabile. Ndonganyelwa ziimvakalelo ezingakhiyo: umsindo, intiyo, umona, inzondo. Ezi mvakalelo ziyaxuba kwaye zixhokonxa ukusabela okungafanelekanga.
• Iimfuno ezigqithisileyo, ngokukhawuleza. Umntwana wenza nantoni na efunekayo ukufumana ingqalelo yomzali omnye okanye ababini (kuxhomekeke kuhlobo lwengxaki). Ubonakalisa ukucaphuka nangaliphi na ixesha, uyacaphuka yaye akavumi ukuqhubeka nemisebenzi yakhe yemihla ngemihla.
• Ubunzima bokwahlula. Abantwana banokukhathazeka kakhulu xa behlulwe kumanani abo okunamathiselwe. Wayengayamkeli into yokuba uyise amthandayo akayi kuba kufutshane naye kangangexesha elithile. Iintsana ziba novalo, ziyakhala kwaye zicaphuke.
• Yala ukunxibelelana. Abantwana ababonisa i-Oedipus complex kaninzi bayala ukunxibelelana noontanga babo. Ufuna ukuba nonina okanye uyise ngalo lonke ixesha, kuba kuphela ubukho bakhe obusondeleyo bunokwenza umntwana azive ezolile kwaye ekhuselekile.

Iingcebiso ze-Oedipus complex ebuntwaneni

Ukuthintela le ngxaki ekuchaphazeni ukukhula okuchanekileyo kwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo zabantwana, Iingcali zincoma ukulandela izikhokelo ezingezantsi.:

• Hlala uthetha inyaniso.
• Ungaze unike ulwazi olungaphaya koko akucelwe ngumntwana wakho.
• Abantwana kufuneka babe nendawo yokuhlala, indawo ebanika ubumfihlo.
• Utata makacacisele umntwana ukuba kutheni engenakutshata nomama.
• Kuphephe ukubonakalisa uthando phakathi kwamaqabane phambi kwabantwana, njengoko kunokwandisa umona wabo.
• Kuphephe ukukhuphisana nokuqwalaselwa kwebele. Lahluleni ixesha lenu nobabini ukuze iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ngakuyise zingakhuliswa.
• Abazali bacetyiswa ukuba bachithe ixesha elingakumbi nabantwana babo kwaye bachithe ixesha kwizinto abafana ngazo nomntwana njengokudlala, ukuhamba...
• Kuphephe ukugxeka, ukugweba okanye ukwenza intlekisa ngezimo zengqondo kunye nokuziphatha ezicaphukisa umntwana we-Oedipus complex, azijonga njengesiqhelo, kwanokuba zibonakala zingaqhelekanga okanye zingekho ngqiqweni kumntu omdala. Yamkele njengoko injalo.

Iimpawu eziphambili ze-Oedipus complex kwinqanaba labantu abadala

Ukuba ukuncamathela okuqinileyo kumama akunqotshwa ngokwemvelo xa umntu eshiya ebuntwaneni, umzekelo wokuziphatha kwe-complex ye-Oedipus yabantu abadala ikhula. Le meko inokubangelwa zizimbo zokukhuliswa ngendlela engafanelekanga, kuquka oomama abakhuselayo ngokugqithisileyo.
Kwezinye iimeko, akukho lula ukuqaphela iimpawu zokuncamathela ngenxa yokuba zenzeke ngendlela ekhethekileyo phakathi kukamama nomntwana. Oko kukuthi, umntu unokuba nobomi obuzimeleyo, kodwa izigqibo zakhe ziya kusekelwa kubudlelwane nomama wakhe.

Uninzi lweempawu ezibonwa kumadoda anezakhiwo ze-Oedipus zijolise kwi ungquzulwano ukuseka ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ezinye zezi mpawu zisenokuba zezi zilandelayo:

• Ukoyika ukunxulumana nabanye.
• Bafuna ubudlelwane nabantu abadala.
• Banobunzima bokugcina ubudlelwane.
• Batshintsha amaqabane rhoqo.
• Kunzima ukufumana inkululeko yezoqoqosho.
• Ulindelo olungafezekiswanga eluthandweni.
• Bona ngokwabo balonakalisa ubudlelwane babo.
• Ukungasebenzi ngokwesondo kwemvelaphi yengqondo.
• Baxhomekeke koonina ekwenzeni izigqibo zobuqu.
• Ukuthanda kukaPlato kumama wakhe.

Ziziphi iziphumo ze-Oedipus complex yabantu abadala?

Njengoko besitshilo, i-Oedipus complex iqhelekile ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka ethile. Kodwa xa ubuntwana buphelile, abantu abaselula kufuneka bathembele kancinci koonina baze bakhulise ulwalamano olungcono nootata babo.

Ezinye iziphumo zokungaphumeleli ukuncamathela komntwana kumama zingaba zezi zilandelayo:

• Ukungakwazi ukufikelela kwiinjongo zobuqu.
• Uthanda ukuba neengxabano ezinzulu kunye neengxabano kunye neqabane lakho.
• Ukunyamezela okuphantsi kokuphazamiseka.
• Kunzima ukuzimela.
• ukungakhuli ngokweemvakalelo

Iziphumo ezikhankanywe ngasentla zidibene neengxaki zokuzithemba ezinokuphetshwa ngengqiqo yokukhusela emele umfanekiso womama. I-complex ye-Oedipus engasonjululwanga ithintela amadoda ukuba ashiye indawo yawo yokuthuthuzela kwaye abe ngabaphathi bamava abo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ingxaki ikhona, kungakhathaliseki ukuba imvelaphi yayo, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuyiphatha ngoncedo lochwepheshe.

Kungoko kubalulekile ukuba ootata nomama bahloniphe umntwana wabo njengomntu ozimeleyo ngokupheleleyo. Umntwana kufuneka ancediswe ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane bomntu kwaye aziqhelanise noluntu, apho baya kuphuhlisa kusasa. Ndiyathemba ukuba eli nqaku libe luncedo kuwe.