Ngokufunda eli nqaku, umfundi uya kuyazi i-Biography enomdla UBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe. Uthweswe isidanga kwiPsychology and Theology, therapist yosapho kunye nesexologist yeklinikhi.
UBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe
UBernardo Stamateas yingcali eyaziwayo yezengqondo, yesizwe saseArgentina, owazalwa nge-13 kaJanuwari 1965, kwisithili saseFloresta, esikwidolophu yaseBuenos Aires. UStamateas wafunda iPsychology kwiYunivesithi yaseKennedy, egxile kwiClinical Sexology. Uthweswe isidanga kwisayikholoji, iTherapist yosapho kunye nesexologist yeklinikhi.
UBernardo ebengumntu obesoloko etsaleleka ekuncedeni abanye, kwaye unothando olukhulu kwaye eluncoma uncwadi. Luphawu lobomi bakhe, olwabonakaliswa kwasebuncinaneni bakhe.
Emva kokuba egqibile kwisikolo samabanga aphantsi nesesekondari, wacebisa ukuba afunde ngengqondo nezakwalizwi kwangaxeshanye, njengoko wayefunda ngolonwabo iingcamango zika-Aristotle, uPlato noSocrates, imvelaphi yamaGrike njengaye.
Wathi akugqiba izifundo zakhe, waqala ukuba notyekelo oluphawuleka kakhulu kwi-sexology kwindawo yezonyango, esiya kwizifundo ezifundiswa nguJuan Carlos Kustnezoff.
Emva kokuzahlulela nokuchitha ixesha lakhe langaphakathi kwiziko lesibhedlele, uBernardo Stamateas waqonda ukuba ubizo lwakhe yayikukunceda abanye abantu, ngonqulo.
Ke, yindlela isazi ngengqondo esenza ngayo isigqibo sokuseka ibandla elitsha apho sidibanisa inkolo neenkolelo zamaGrike.
Ke, yindlela uBernardo Stamateas awaseka ngayo uBukho boBulungiseleli bukaThixo, obuphakathi kwendawo yaseCaballito. Yayibaphazamisa abalandeli abaninzi ngokuvela kumajelo ohlukeneyo kamabonwakude anento yokwenza nenkolo. Okwangoku, udibana nomntu oza kuba ngumfazi wakhe, ogama linguAlejandra.
Okwangoku, isazi sezengqondo esaziwayo saseArgentina siyaqhubeka nokwenza ubulungiseleli bakhe betempile, ngelixa lizinikele ekubambeni imisebenzi, ngenjongo yokunceda abanye ukuba babe nobomi obungcono.
Kuwo wonke umsebenzi wakhe, uStamateas uxatyiswa kakhulu ngokukwazi kwakhe ukunxibelelana, nto leyo emenza ukuba abe sisithethi esivunyiweyo kwilizwe lakhe lokuzalwa nakwilizwe liphela.
Lo msebenzi wezonyango kunye nombhali uvelise imisebenzi emininzi yokuzinceda, ukuziphucula, kunye nokomoya ngempumelelo enkulu kwintanda yakhe yaseArgentina, kwaye ukwazile ukuba kwimarike yamazwe ngamazwe, ngakumbi kwisincoko sakhe sika-2008, esinesihloko esithi Abantu Abanetyhefu. .
Ubomi boncwadi lombhali
UBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe zifundwa ngabantu abaninzi kunye nabahlukeneyo abenza uluntu, olubavumela ukuba bakhawuleze babe ngabaThengisi abaPhezulu kwiimarike zaseArgentina.
Kumsebenzi wakhe njengombhali, uBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe ziye zakwazi ukubamba iincwadi ezingaphezu kwama-40, ezijolise ekukhokeleni abafundi bazo, kwaye bafumane amandla, amandla kunye nokukwazi ukufikelela ngokupheleleyo zonke iinjongo ezicetywayo kumabali akhe.
Phakathi kwabafundi bakhe abaninzi abanenzondelelo, kukho abantu abadumileyo besizwe sakhe, abafana nomninimzi uSusana Giménez, kunye nosopolitiki owaziwayo uCristina Fernández.
UBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe ziqinisekisa ukuthenjwa okubekwe kuye kumxholo wobunkokeli kunye nokuziphucula, kwaye ngokubanzi usisikhokelo kubantu abadumileyo abavela kwezolonwabo.
UBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe baye bathatha umsebenzi wokujikeleza lonke ilizwe laseArgentina, ukunika iingcebiso kunye noqeqesho, kunye nokuyalela inani leentetho ezivulekileyo ezijoliswe kuluntu, evakalisa ukuqaliswa kwemisebenzi yakhe.
Kwiintlobo ngeentlobo zemixholo equlethwe kwimisebenzi yakhe, kukho iingxabano ezimbini, ubudlelwane phakathi komzali nomntwana, uxinzelelo lomsebenzi, kunye nolawulo kunye nokulawulwa kobuntu bomntu.
Ukuqala unyaka we-2018, yavezwa phambi kwamakhulu abalandeli, kwi-"Cycle of Talks on Emotional Health", eyenziwa yinkampani yakwaSanCor kunye ne-UNICEF yaseArgentina.
Nalu uluhlu lweencwadi zikaBernardo Stamateas:
Unyaka we-1995: Iingcebiso zabafundisi
Unyaka wama-2002: Impilo kwiMali. Impilo yangaphakathi ngemodeli ye-4-door.
Unyaka wama-2007: Iziphumo ezongezelelweyo eziqhelekileyo
Unyaka wama-2008: Abantu abanetyhefu. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye ne-Eroticism kwisibini.
Unyaka wama-2009: Iimvakalelo ezinobuthi
Unyaka wama-2010: Ukunxila lukholo
Unyaka wama-2011: Ukuzikwaya. abantu abanetyhefu
Unyaka wama-2012: Ukuthanda ubutyhefu. Iimvakalelo ezinobuthi. ndithande ngakumbi Wedwa kwaye Wedwa. Fikelela kwiMpumelelo.
Unyaka wama-2013: Amanxeba ngokweemvakalelo. Musa ukundiphatha kakubi.
Unyaka wama-2014: Ndifuna utshintsho. Iziphumo ezingaqhelekanga.
Unyaka wama-2015: Abantu abanetyhefu ngakumbi. Ndiyakwazi ukuzilawula.
Unyaka we-2016: Amaqhina engqondo.
Unyaka wama-2017: Amandla akho angaphakathi
Unyaka we-2018: Ukuzola ngokweemvakalelo. Izisombululo eziluncedo
Unyaka wama-2019: Iintlungu ezomelezayo
Unyaka wama-2020: Amanxeba ngokweemvakalelo
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba uninzi lwale misebenzi yoncwadi kaBernardo Stamateas iya kuchazwa kule mihlathi ilandelayo, ukuqala ngo:
abantu abanetyhefu
Umbhali uBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe zibonisa ukuba "abantu abanetyhefu" ngabantu abangalunganga abahlala bevavanya oko omnye akutshoyo nakwenzayo, okanye ukusilela, oko kungathethwayo okanye kwenziwa.
Ngabantu abongeza ubuthathaka kwaye bazalise omnye ngemithwalo kunye nokuphazamiseka. Ijolise ekuboniseni iindlela ezahlukeneyo kunye nezona ziqhelekileyo apho umntu anokuba nefuthe elibi kwabo bamngqongileyo.
Ngoko ke, ifuna ukuchonga uphawu ngalunye lobuntu kubomi bemihla ngemihla bomntu, ukusuka kwingqesho yabo, iindawo zokuphumla, ukufikelela kwintlalontle yabo, intsapho kunye nezinye iindawo. Ukongeza ekuchazeni izizathu zobuntu obuhlukeneyo kunye nokuziphatha okuyingozi okubandakanya ukuhlala nabantu abanezimo zengqondo.
Injongo yalo msebenzi kukudwelisa iinkqubo ekufuneka zilandelwe ukuze kwaziwe amanyathelo ekufuneka athatyathwe ukunceda ukuchonga olu hlobo lomntu, kunye nokubaphepha, kwaye kwezinye iimeko, ukuzikhulula ekubeni secaleni kwabo. , ngenxa yokuba ubukho babo bubangela ukungahambi kakuhle kwaye ngakumbi ukuba kwabelwana ngecala labo.
Ukuqokelela kweengcebiso kunye neengcebiso, ezibonelelwa ngumbhali, zinempembelelo kumfundi, kuba ubudlelwane boluntu boluntu bunokwenziwa buqine ngakumbi kwaye buthandeke kubo bobabini.
UBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe bachaza abantu abanetyhefu ngendlela elula, ukuze umfundi abe nesibonelelo sokubachonga ngokukhawuleza nangempumelelo. Phakathi kwezi ntlobo zabantu, oku kulandelayo kunokugqanyiswa:
IiMeteculpas
Libhekisela kumntu, ogxeka ukungavumelani kwakhe kunye nokungonwabi kwakhe kwabanye abantu abamngqongileyo, umzekelo abazali bakhe, ngenxa yokuba babengekho ebuntwaneni bakhe, kwaye ukongezelela ekubenzeni bazive bengumthwalo; abantwana bakowabo, kuba ndandibahoyile besengabantwana, nangenxa yokuba wayengenaxesha lokufunda, phakathi kwezinye izinto ezininzi.
I-meteculpas ihlala ichaza le miyalezo ilandelayo:
“Nguwe onoxanduva ngento endiyenzileyo” · “Imini yandigulisa”. "Umphathi wam uyandicaphukisa." "Uyimoshile imini yam." "Namhlanje undihluthisile." "Undinyanzele..."
Nje ukuba ubandakanyeke "kwi-blame mess", unokuza ngaphakathi komyalezo wabo kwaye wenze omnye umntu azive enetyala. Ngoko, xa siziva sinetyala, siqalisa ukuphila sifuna ukumkholisa, kodwa sibubekela ecaleni ubomi bethu, yaye ngokutsho kukaBernardo Stamateas neencwadi zakhe ezidluliselayo, sisimo sengqondo esingafanelekanga.
Umthinteli
Njengoko i-Stamateas isixelela, ukuba umntu osebenza njenge-Disqualifier, unenjongo yokulawula ukuzithemba komnye, ukuze bazive bebi, benze abanye bazive "njengento" ngaphambili, befuna ukuba ngale ndlela, yena. nguye kuphela onokukhanya kwaye abe sisazulu sendalo iphela.
Ukuthuka Ngentetho
Umntu onoburhalarhume wenza ukuba omnye umntu azive engakhuselekanga ngokukhwaza nangeempendulo ezirhabaxa. Usoloko ezama ukoyikisa ngenjongo yokuhlonelwa. Abantu abathetha ndlongondlongo badla ngokuba nzima, bantsonkothe, ngabo abathintela ubomi bomnye nomnye ngomzuzwana ngamnye, kuyabonakala ukuba bayakuvuyela ukuhlalisana okanye imeko-bume yokusebenza nzima.
Olu didi lwabantu ludla ngokuba ngolona lunzima kuba luzonakalisa ngokufihla ukhuseleko lwalo ngamazwi ahlabayo nakrwada kwabanye.
Ubuxoki
Olu hlobo lobuntu, olubizwa ngokuba buBubuxoki, sinokuqala ngalo mbuzo: Ngubani ongazange asebenzise isigqubuthelo sobuso ngaxa lithile ebomini bakhe?
Bonke ngokupheleleyo bonke abantu banesimilo esibabonisa abanye ukuze bangasazi. Bobabini amadoda nabasetyhini batshintshile, ngokuhamba kwexesha, siye saba ziingcali ekusebenziseni iimaski.
Sazi kakuhle ukuba yeyiphi enokusetyenziswa ngokuxhomekeke ekubeni sikunye nabani na ngelo xesha, okanye imeko esijongene nayo, nangona kunjalo, malunga nokuphithizela, okungasivumeli ukuba siphumle, siyalibala ukuba singaphucula njani ukuba singobani ngokwenene. .
Uninzi lwaba bantu badityaniswa neengxabano zesini okanye zobuntu, kuba abaguquleli nje ubuntu babo, kodwa kunye nenkangeleko yabo yomzimba.
Ingqondo
Umntu we-psychopathic unamandla okuhlala ebonisa umfanekiso wobuxoki, ezama ukwenza omnye akholelwe ukuba unomdla, xa ngokwenene akanamdla.
Ngalo lonke ixesha babonisa umfanekiso ongekho ngokuhambelana nengaphakathi labo. Bangabantu abadla ngokuthi "umhlobo" wakho, ngelixa befezekisa iinjongo zabo. Xa bezifumana bakuphatha ngathi zange badibane nawe.
Umona
Nguye uhlobo lomntu, ongenakumela ukuba omnye uphumelele. Ngulo mntu ubandezelekayo ngenxa yokuba nemali encinci, kwaye engonwabanga kunomnye. Eyona njongo yayo kukuhlala "ngaphezulu" kunomnye umntu.
Olu hlobo lomntu ludla ngokuzama ukufumana amahlakani. Ifuna ukweyisela abanye ukuba bayityhefu kuba injongo yayo kukuthintela iiprojekthi. Ukongeza, umona ukhatshwa kukugxeka, ukuhleba, ukuhleba, ukuxhomekeka, ukungafuni, intaphane yeendlela zokuziphatha ezimbi ezidla amandla kunye namandla omntu.
phakathi
Isimo sengqondo esiphakathi kunye nokuxakaniseka kudla ngokuba yimiba eyosulelayo, njengayo nayiphi na eminye imiba ebesiyibonisa. Ubuvila, ukungabikho kokuvuselela, ukuphulukana namaphupha kunye nombono, kwenze abaninzi bazinza kubomi obukruqulayo, kungekho nto ibothusayo.
Umntu udla ngokuhlala ebuthongweni obungapheliyo, akenzakalisi omnye umntu, yena yedwa.
Umhlebi
Umntu ohlebayo akavumi ukuthetha ngesiqu sakhe, ngoko akanamdla wokuba sisazulu sengqalelo. Uluhlobo lomntu obaziyo ubomi babo bonke abantu abamngqongileyo, nangona kunjalo, akukho mntu waziyo ngobomi bakhe. Ufuna ukuthetha rhoqo ngobomi babanye.
Abantu abahlebayo abanyamezeli okanye bathande ukuthula, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba bahlale bencokola ngento ethile okanye bathethe ngabanye.
Isimo sengqondo sokuhleba siyafana nje nendlela yokukhulula ubundlongondlongo obanjiweyo.
I-Authoritarian
Abantu abahlala bekwisikhundla sokufumana amandla, ngokuqhelekileyo bazama ukubhidanisa ubukhoboka, bezibonakalisa njengenkonzo okanye umsebenzi njengoko kuvunyelwene phakathi kwamaqela.
Sisitayile iinkokeli ezininzi ezihlala zifuna ukufumana iinjongo zazo, nokuba ithini na intsingiselo yokusebenza kweqela, kukukhangela okusisigxina ukufezekisa uphuculo lwabo, kunye nenzuzo kubo bonke, ebavumela ukuba bafezekise iinjongo ezibekiweyo. Uluhlobo lomntu ongalaziyo okanye ongasebenziyo kwiqela.
I-Neurotic
Ezinye zeenkxalabo zengqondo ezibonakaliswa ngumntu kukuziphatha kwe-neurotic: zibonisa isidingo sokuthandwa kunye nokwamkelwa, kufuneka ziqatshelwe, zifuna amandla kunye nobunkokeli, imfuno yokuzimela kunye nesidingo sokufezeka. Abakwamkeli ukuthatha inxaxheba kwabanye kumsebenzi weqela.
I-Manipulator
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abakhohlisayo baphanda ukuziphatha kwabantu befuna iimfuno zabo kunye nobuthathaka babo. Bajolise kubantu abavakalisa inkxalabo malunga neengxaki zabanye, abantu abathembayo, abantu abanomsindisi onzima okanye baziva benetyala.
Bakhangela abantu ababeka ububele ngaphambi kwesidima sabo, abantu abanengxaki yokuthi HAYI, naboyikisa imizabalazo.
Abazidlayo
Uluhlobo lomntu obonisa ukuzithemba ngokugqithiseleyo kuye, kwinto ayivakalisayo, nakwinto ayenzayo, kwizigqibo, ngokutsho kwakhe, zonke izenzo zakhe zezona zilungileyo kwaye yonke into ayenzayo yimeko yemfezeko, ngokupheleleyo. Yonke into ayivelisayo nayiphumezayo ilungile, incamisekile, ifaneleke ngokugqibeleleyo;
umkhalazi
Kumalunga nomntu, ukuba yonke into iyamcaphukisa, xa imvula inetha iyamcaphukisa, ukuba ilanga liyaphuma, nalo. Ukuba bambulisa ngentliziyo epheleleyo, naye uba nomsindo, ngoko ukuba bambulise ngobubele, abakhululeki.
Eyona nto bayixhalabele ngokwenene kukukhalaza, benesizathu sokukholelwa ukuba ihlabathi lichasene nabo, nokuba mnye kuphela umntu onamandla okubaqonda. Ummangali, ngonaphakade, uya kufumana inkuthazo ekhokelela ekubeni akhalaze.
Amaqhina ngengqondo
Ingqondo yomntu iyasebenza kwiiyure ezingamashumi amabini anesine, sihlala sicinga. Umgangatho weengcinga zethu nguwo omisela umgangatho wobomi bethu.
Asinakuhamba mgama kuneengcinga zethu. Uninzi lwazo lubizwa ngokuba “ngamaqhina engqondo”: iingcamango, iinkolelo, ezisibangela ukuba sibandezeleke, sibandezeleke, ziyasibekela umda, sixinezelekile, sizizalisa ngemithambo-luvo.
Uninzi lwamaqhina engqondo, ngokuqinisekileyo uninzi lwabantu, luxazululwa ngokwethu, abanye ngokukhawuleza, abanye bacotha, nangona kunjalo, kukho amaqhina engqondo, anciphisa kwaye abangele intlungu enkulu ixesha elide.
Kulo msebenzi umangalisayo, ingcali uBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe bacebisa ukuseka ukudibanisa phakathi kwenkqubo yemihla ngemihla yabantu kunye nokukwazi kwabo ukucinga ngezenzo zabo.
Injongo elandelwa yingxelo kukwenza ngathi ubonisa ukuba zeziphi iingxabano ezijongene nendlela yobukho bomntu, emva kokuba zichongiwe, imeko ehambelanayo inokufezekiswa kuzo zonke iingqiqo, ngokuqwalasela isantya sobomi bemihla ngemihla. .
Umbhali uzama ukufikelela kubafundi ngobhalo lwakhe, ukuze bafikelele kwaye batshintshiselane ngeembono ezimenzakalisayo, ezingabavumeli ukuba bafumane isisombululo kwiingxabano, kwelinye icala, uzalwa kwaye akhokele ukudibanisa iimvakalelo zoxolelwaniso. kunye nokuzola.
Ukufezekisa ezi njongo, umbhali uBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe babhenca iingcebiso nezilumkiso ekulula ukuziqonda kunye nezilumkiso, ezisuka kwiinyani ezichongiweyo ngexesha lamava akhe kunxibelelwano lwezengqondo.
Uloyiko, iimfazwe, ukuzicingela yedwa, ukukhangela rhoqo imfezeko kunye nokugqwesa, ukunqongophala komsa, kunye nentlalontle ehambelanayo, yonke le ngqungquthela phakathi kwezinye, yimiba efanelekileyo eyonakalisa ubomi bemihla ngemihla bakhe nawuphi na umntu.
Njengoko kusekwe ngumbhali u-Stamateas, ukuba zonke ezi ngcinga zinokuguqulwa kuphela ukuba umntu obandezelekileyo, ekwazi ukwenza uvandlakanyo lwangaphakathi olumkhokelela ekubeni azi ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni kubomi bakhe.
Ngamaxesha amaninzi umbhali umisela kwaye acacise ukuba umsebenzi wakhe awuzange uphathwe njengento yokupheka ukulungiselela ukutya, okubonisa amanyathelo okulandelwa, de kube imveliso egqityiweyo iphunyeziwe. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, iqulethe amacebiso alula anokunceda abafundi bayo okanye angabi nayo ngokufanelekileyo bafumane indlela yokuhlangabezana nobunzima obubathintelayo ukuba banandiphe ubomi obuvisisanayo, ulonwabo nobanelisayo.
iimvakalelo eziyityhefu
Umsebenzi onesihloko esithi "Iimvakalelo ezinobutyhefu", indlela yokuphilisa umonakalo weemvakalelo kwaye ukhululeke ukuphumeza uxolo lwangaphakathi ", umbhali, uBernardo Stamateas, ufuna ukubonisa, njani kwi-Toxic People, zeziphi iimvakalelo eziyinyaniso ezihlala zithintela indlela eya kwimvisiswano kunye ulonwabo lomntu.
Umsebenzi uzama ukwenza umfundi afunde ukuqonda ngokulula iintlobo zeemvakalelo ezonakalisayo kwaye zityhefa ubukho babo babandezelekayo, ngenjongo yokuba ziguqulwe zibe ezinye iimvakalelo ezibonelela ngeenzuzo.
Phakathi kweemvakalelo eziyityhefu ezininzi ezivezwa nguStamateas kuthi lunxunguphalo, unxunguphalo, ukungoneliseki okungapheliyo, ukuzinikela, umona, uloyiko, ityala, ukwaliwa, umona, kwaye oko kufuneka kuphiliswe.
Oko akubandakanyayo umntu ngokwakhe ekulungiseleleni ukuba alungele ukuzikhulula kuyo nayiphi na imvakalelo engafanelekanga neyityhefu asenokuvakalelwa ngayo, nokumnceda afumane indlela yokuyicombulula.
Umbhali uStamateas, ucebisa emsebenzini wakhe, ukuba abele uvakalelo ngalunye, intsingiselo eyiyo enayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, iimvakalelo azikwazi ukulawulwa kwaye zilawulwe ngaphandle, ngokuchaseneyo, kufuneka zilawulwe ngaphakathi kubomi bethu. UBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe zivakalisa;
"Ukuphila kuthetha ukwazana, kwaye ulwazi kukuba kusinika indlela yokunxulumana nabanye, okanye kuthi. Uya kufunda kuthotho lwezixhobo ezixabisekileyo eziza kukuvumela ukuba ulahle ukuphoxeka, umsindo, ukuncamathela, ukuziva unetyala, ukwaliwa, ukuzuza uxolo lwangaphakathi kunye nemvisiswano oyinqwenelayo. ”
Kule mihlathi ilandelayo uya kufumana indlela onokuthi uzisuse ngayo kubukho bakho:
ixhala eliyityhefu
Ukuxhalaba okunetyhefu yimvakalelo umntu avakalelwa ngayo xa esongelwa. Kukuxhalaba ukugqiba ukuhlasela wonke umzimba nengqondo ngokuba yityhefu.
Yimvakalelo ekujikelezayo ngendlela ekhokelela ekudimazekeni ngokulula kakhulu, ubonisa ukuziphatha kokuphelelwa lithemba, enyanisweni uphelela kwimeko yokudakumba.
Iimpawu ezithile ukuba umntu onobuthi okanye amava ukuxhalaba ezingapheliyo: uloyiko, ukungakhuseleki, uloyiko, ukungabikho ingqalelo, ukuphuthelwa, phakathi kwabanye.
Ngoku, siyazibuza, linokoyiswa njani ixhala eliyityhefu? UBernardo Stamateas, ingcali kwiincwadi, unika iingcebiso eziluncedo ezinceda umntu ukuba oyise ixhala elaziwayo eliyityhefu, eqaqambisa:
- Funda ukufumanisa imithombo okanye yintoni ebangela ukuxhalaba kwakho
- Yenza umthambo rhoqo ngeveki.
- Zingqonge nabantu abanengqondo entle nevisisanayo.
intlungu eyityhefu
Yintlungu eyityhefu, ekwenza uzive kwaye uphile kwimeko engapheliyo yokungonwabi, ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukuphelelwa lithemba, izikhalazo kunye nokuzisola. Ngokunjalo, olu hlobo lonxunguphalo lunoxanduva lokuba umntu aguqule ngokupheleleyo indlela yokuphulaphula nokuthetha, nokwenza ezona zigqibo zilungileyo ezikhokelela kwinkqubela phambili kubukho bakho.
Ukuxhalaba okunetyhefu kukubangela ukuba uhlale ukwimeko yokukhubazeka, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ukhubaza ikamva lakho, kunye nelo labantu abakwinkampani yakho.
Ngokufanayo, sizibuza lo mbuzo: Unokuloyisa njani unxunguphalo oluyityhefu? Kumsebenzi wakhe, umbhali wenza iingcebiso ezinceda ngempumelelo ukoyisa imvakalelo eyityhefu yonxunguphalo, njengale:
Funda ukulawula iinkumbulo ezintle ngobulumko. Iinkumbulo kufuneka zibonwe njengempumelelo enkulu yexesha elidlulileyo, eya kukufundisa ukulawula iimfazwe zangoku.
Funda ukuba ebomini kukho iimeko onokuthi uzitshintshe kwaye ezinye awukwazi ukuzitshintsha kuba azixhomekeke kuwe. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungazitshintsha okanye ungazitshintshi, yintoni emalunga nayo kukuba unqume indlela yokuphila nganye kuzo. "
ukungoneliseki okungapheliyo
Ukunganeliseki kukodwa akuyomvakalelo enetyhefu okanye embi. Ungquzulwano lokunganeliseki ludla ngokuvela xa lusiba lungapheliyo, nto leyo ethetha ukuba luthatha indlela eqinisekileyo yobomi bomntu kunye nemisebenzi yakhe yemihla ngemihla.
Yintoni emalunga nayo kukuphila ekunganeliseki okuqhelekileyo okukhokelela ekuphuculeni imihla ngemihla. Kodwa ukunganeliseki okungapheliyo kuba yityhefu, kuba ifuna ukufezekisa ukugqibelela kuyo yonke into ejikeleze abantu kunye nabo babangqongileyo.
Xa ujongene nombuzo othi: Ungakoyisa njani ukunganeliseki okungapheliyo?
"Funa ukugqwesa ngaphezu kweemvakalelo."
uncamathiselo oluyityhefu
Ukuncamathela ngokweemvakalelo yimvakalelo eyityhefu, ngokuqinisekileyo eyingozi kakhulu kwaye iyingozi, kwaye kufuneka ibonwe ukuze iphele. Ukuncamathela okunetyhefu kwenza umntu alawuleke ngokwasemoyeni, ukongeza ekwenzeni ukuba uzive njengomntu ongaphelelanga kwaye ongenakho ukufezekisa kwaye ufezekise iinjongo zakho ezicetywayo ngeendlela zakho.
Isibakala sokuba umntu oxhomekeke kuye sibangela ukubandezeleka okukhulu kuba umntu uxhomekeke kwabanye. Xa umntu exhomekeke, bakuvumela ukuba ulawule iimvakalelo zakho kunye nezigqibo.
Ukuze unqobe olu hlobo lweemvakalelo, ukudibanisa okunetyhefu, umntu ochaphazelekayo kufuneka azibeke kuqala, okuguqulela, kufuneka uziqinisekise ukuba nguwe kuphela ophambili. Bernardo Stamateas, uphakamisa oku kulandelayo:
- Funda ukuzisombulula ngokwakho iingxabano.
- Funda ukuzibona iimpazamo zakho.
- Cima kwisigama sakho esifana ne 'andikwazi' okanye 'andazi' ukwenzela 'ndiya kufunda'.
umsindo oyityhefu
Umsindo ufanele ujongwe njengesimo sengqondo okanye amandla, athi maxa wambi avumele loo mntu ukuba oyise iingxabano ezinzima. Ke, ibhekisa kwimvakalelo ethi, elawulwa kakuhle, inokuba luncedo kakhulu, kuxhomekeke kweso sihlandlo.
Ungquzulwano lubakho xa umsindo usiba ngumsindo oyityhefu. Okokuqala, zibangelwa kukufunda ukwahlula phakathi komsindo nogonyamelo. Ngoko xa umsindo uguquka ube lugonyamelo, ngokuzenzekelayo ujika ube ngumsindo oyityhefu.
Nangona kunjalo, ubundlobongela kufuneka buqondwe njengokuziphatha okungaqhelekanga, kwaye injongo yabo yodwa kukwenzakalisa omnye umntu.
Ukoyisa umsindo oyityhefu, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ufunde ukuchonga kwaye ukhethe ukuba yeyiphi na indlela osabela ngayo ngaphambi kokuba kuvele imeko enomsindo. Apho ingcali uBernardo Stamateas, icebisa oku kulandelayo:
- Khetha indlela oza kucaphuka ngayo.
- Khetha indlela oza kulawula ngayo umsindo ngobulumko nangengqiqo.
- Khetha uhlobo lomsindo ofuna ukuwudlulisela kwabo bakungqongileyo.
umona oyityhefu
Umona onetyhefu ngulowo ubangela ukubandezeleka emntwini, nakubantu abakungqongileyo abakuxabisayo. Yimvakalelo eyenza kube nzima ukubhiyozela uloyiso oluphunyezwe ngabanye.
Ngoko umona onetyhefu kukukhokelela kwindlela ebuhlungu, kuba awukwazi ukuthwala ukuba omnye umntu uphumelele kuzo zonke iiprojekthi zabo.
Ukoyisa le mvakalelo iyingozi njengomona onetyhefu, umbhali womsebenzi ucebisa:
- Funda ukufumanisa ubunye bakho, oko kukuthi, uzifumanele ngokwakho into ekwenza wahluke kwaye ungaphindi uphindwe.
- Funda ukwenza iphupha lakho kwaye ulibone ngeso lengqondo kwaye ulibale ngamaphupha abantu abakujikelezile.
uloyiko oluyityhefu
Umbhali uStamateas, ubhekisa kwibinzana elikwincwadi yakhe: Iimvakalelo ezinetyhefu. Indlela yokuphilisa umonakalo weemvakalelo kwaye ukhululeke ukuba noxolo lwangaphakathi, ukuba malunga noloyiko kubalulekile xa ichaza: uloyiko olungoyiswayo lunokuhlala ubomi bonke.
Emva koko, umntu unokucinga ukuba uloyiko lufana nomfanekiso ongqukuva, luyingozi kuba alunasiphelo, kwaye luzondla ngokwalo. Ngoko ke kubalulekile, kuphela ngokufumanisa apho uloyiko luvela khona, umntu unamandla okujongana nokuwoyisa.
UBernardo Stamateas ucebisa iindlela zokufunda kunye nokunceda ukoyisa uloyiko oluyityhefu, olunje:
Velisa iingcinga zesenzo. Esi sicwangciso sigxile ekwakheni uluhlu lweempendulo ezinokwenzeka kuluhlu oludala uloyiko lwakho. Cinga ngezinto ezimbi ezinokuthi zenzeke kuwe kwaye ucinge ngendlela obuya kuzicombulula ngayo. Ngale ndlela iingcinga zakho ezoyikayo ziya kujika zibe ziingcinga zesicombululo..
ityhefu shame
Ihlazo elinobuthi yenye yezona mvakalelo zaziwa kakhulu kwaye zihlala zihlasela abantu. Yimvakalelo ethe gqolo emntwini kuba esoyika ukuzenza isidenge. Uloyiko lwe-burlesque, lujolise kumathuba amaninzi kuloyiko lokulahlwa ngabanye abantu. Ingunobangela wehlazo elinetyhefu, ukukhubazeka kunye nokucinezela ukwenza uninzi lweenjongo kunye nokuzalisekisa iminqweno.
Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuba umntu okuhlazisayo phambi kwabanye wenza oko ngenxa yokungakhuseleki kwakhe. Ukoyisa ihlazo elinobuthi, kufuneka uqonde ukuba umntu ofunayo kwaye uzama ukwenza ukuba ubonakale uhlekisa okanye uhlazekile, kuba uziva esongelwa bubukho bakho, okuguqulela, ubona njengomntu okhuphisana naye.
Ingcali uBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe bazimisele ukwenza ngendlela ebambekayo ukoyisa ihlazo eliyityhefu, elinje:
- Zihleke iimpazamo zakho.
- Funda ukuba ukwenza impazamo akukwenzi impazamo.
ukudakumba okuyityhefu
Umntu onesifo soxinzelelo oluyityhefu kufuneka aqonde ukuba ngumbandela onzulu ngokwenene.
Ukuba yenye yeemvakalelo ezinobuthi eziyingozi kakhulu ezikhoyo, kwaye apho umntu unokubandezeleka, kuba uva intlungu enzulu. Ukuxinezeleka okunetyhefu kukuguqulwa kwemeko yengqondo, kwaye oko kuphazamisa zonke ezinye iindawo ezijikeleze ubukho bomntu.
Umntu ochaphazelekayo usenokuvakalelwa kukuba akasazi isizathu kunye nokuba uphilela ntoni.
Iintlobo zokudakumba:
esebenzayo: uhlobo lwabantu abangeniswayo, abangakhuselekanga nabanovelwano
manic-depressive: kwenzeka kubantu abaziva bediniwe, ngenxa yeempazamo okanye ubutyala obungekapholi.
Mhlawumbi, baya kuzibuza ukuba unokukoyisa njani ukudandatheka okunetyhefu? Olona xinzelelo luyingozi kakhulu, kufuneka kwaziwe ukuba luyanyangeka.
Ukuqala, umntu kufuneka aguqule iingcinga kunye nendlela azijonga ngayo. Ingcaphephe kulo mbandela, isazi ngengqondo uStamateas, sichaza oku kulandelayo:
- Funda ukuthetha izinto ezakhayo.
- Qonda ukuba iimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo ziyinxalenye yokukhula kwakho.
- Suka ebantwini abangafaki galelo kuwe okanye abakwenzakalisayo.
ukukhungatheka okuyityhefu
Yimvakalelo enenjongo yokumkhubaza ngokupheleleyo umntu. Akuyeki ukuba, kuba ukutya kwayo okuphambili kukungaphumeleli kunye nokudumala, okubonakala phambi komnqweno ongafezekiyo, okanye ngaphambi kwesidingo esingahlawulwanga.
Ukucaphuka kwenza umntu abe nomsindo kwaye abe nenzondo. Ngoko ke, kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo ukuba kuphela umntu ohluphekayo kuphela ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye akufanele ahlale kubo bonke ubomi babo, ngethemba lokuba mnandi kwabanye, kwaye uzingise ukuba bakhetha okanye bakhethe wena.
Kufuneka ube ngumntu obeka kuqala ngaphezu kwayo yonke into kwisidima sakho kunye nokunyaniseka, ngokuzazi kwakho kwaye nguwe kuphela olawula ubukho bakho.
Ingcali uBernardo Stamateas inika iingcebiso zokoyisa ukuphoxeka okuyityhefu, iqaqambisa oku kulandelayo:
- Gxininisa koko ukuzuzileyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.
- Zinike imvume yokwenza iimpazamo.
- Ungaze uncame.
i-duel enetyhefu
Xa ukulahlekelwa kwenzeka ebomini bawo nawuphi na umntu, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukunqoba okanye ukuvala ngokuchanekileyo, kuba yinto ebizwa ngokuba yintlungu enobuthi, kuba ukumiswa kwexeshana kuveliswa.
Emva kokuba ilahleko yenzekile, intlungu ngokuqinisekileyo ivela. Igama elithi isijwili ngumzabalazo wangaphakathi apho inxalenye yomntu ivuma ilahleko, ngoxa enye ingavumi.
Ke, i-duel akufuneki ithathwe njengento engalunganga kwasekuqaleni. Ingozi yenzeke xa iba yi-duel enetyhefu, i-duel engakuvumeli ukuba uphinde ulawule ubomi bakho, kuba inqunyanyisiwe kwenye yeenxalenye zenkqubo: ukuqaphela ilahleko, ukulila kunye nokubuyela ebomini njengesiqhelo.
Ngokufanayo, kukho enye inkalo ecacileyo kule mvakalelo yingcamango yokuba intlungu oyivayo yeyakho kwaye yeyakho wedwa. Ekubeni iyeyakho, akufanele uzame ukwenza ukuba abo bakungqongileyo bayiqonde ngendlela efanayo naleyo ibonwa ngayo kuwe.
Ngoko ke, intlungu kufuneka iviwe, nangona kunjalo, kunzima kakhulu ukuba iqondwe. Ukuba sentlungwini akukubi. Ngokuchasene noko. Ukuba neentlungu ziyimfuneko, kwaye akufanele ukuba zibanjwe kuba kufuneka ziphume kuwe.
Abo babandezeleka ngolu hlobo lweemvakalelo baya kuzibuza ukuba unokuyoyisa njani intlungu eyityhefu? Ejongene nalo mbuzo, umbhali uBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe bacebisa oku kulandelayo ukoyisa i-duel:
Funda ukuxolela. Ukuxolela, ukuzixolela kukhulula kakhulu. Kuphela ngokufunda ukuxolela uya kukwazi ukuvala ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye ubuyele kwixesha langoku ukuze uqale ukucwangcisa ikamva lakho.
isikhalo esiyityhefu
Isenzo sokulila silungile njengoko kuyimfuneko. Luhlobo lweemvakalelo ezithi, zilawuleke kakuhle, zidla ngonyango kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, nayiphi na imvakalelo ingaba yityhefu, xa iqhubeka iphendula ngokuzenzekelayo kuyo nayiphi na inkxalabo encinci.
Kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba ukukhala kunokuqondwa njengoko kuyimfuneko, nangona kunjalo, ithafa alinakuze libe sisisombululo.
Yintoni enokwenziwa ukoyisa ukukhala okuyityhefu? Ukukhala okunetyhefu kuyakoyiswa xa sele kukhalela ngaphandle kwesizathu, kuzibiza ngokuba kukukhalisa okuqinisekileyo. Zintathu iindidi zokulila:
- Lilela intlungu.
- Lila ngotshintsho olukhulu.
- Lila xa ufumanisa okanye ubambe umzimba.
ubutyala obuyityhefu
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukwahlula ukuba liyintoni na ityala lokwenyani, oku kuthetha ukuba xa umthetho waphulwa, ukuqaphela oku; kunye netyala eliyityhefu, eliguqulela, iimvakalelo zokuziva unetyala zisuka kwizizathu ezingokweemvakalelo. Ingcaphephe kulo mbandela, uBernardo Stamateas, wenza uthotho lwezindululo zokoyisa ubutyala obuyityhefu, eme phandle:
Xa wenze impazamo, cela uxolo kwaye uqhubeke. Ungaze uyeke. Ukucela uxolo ngokukhawuleza kukwenza uqhubele phambili kwaye ube nokuqonda ngokupheleleyo oko ukuze ungaphindi uphosise.
ukugatywa okuyityhefu
Bonke abantu bafuna ukwamkelwa ngabanye. Ukwaliwa kudala intlungu eqinileyo ebantwini. Xa befumana ukulahlwa, umntu ubona ukungathembeki okukhulu kwaye uthintele ukuqinisekiswa kwabo njengomntu.
Ngoko ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukoyisa ukwaliwa xa kubonwa njengemvakalelo eyityhefu.
Ukoyisa ukwaliwa, unokurhoxisa ukwaliwa ngeendlela ezininzi, kwaye ngakumbi njengoko uBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe zicebisa.
Funda ukuzixabisa ngokuqaphela ubunjani bakho kunye nemvelaphi yakho.
umona oyityhefu
Umona sisenzo esivela kuloyiko lokuphulukana nomntu. Kolu hlobo lwemvakalelo eyityhefu, le miba ilandelayo iyasebenza: isoyikiso, ulawulo, ukwalelwa, uxolelo kunye nelahleko.
Umntu onobuqhetseba bokuba nomona, uhlala enoloyiko lokulahlekelwa.
Ukoyisa le mvakalelo, umbhali ucebisa:
Sebenzisa umthetho wokukhanga okanye, into efanayo, yonke into oyihlonelayo iya kusondela kuwe, ngelixa into ongayihloniphiyo iya kude kuwe ngonaphakade. Ngenxa yoko, ukuhlonelana kubalulekile kulo naluphi na ulwalamano phakathi kwabantu.
UMSEBENZI WAKHE
Ngoku, kwicandelo elilandelayo, siza kuthetha malunga nesazi ngengqondo uBernardo Stamateas abhengeza malunga nemisebenzi yakhe:
Amanxeba emvakalelo
Ngokuqinisekileyo bonke abantu banexesha elidlulileyo, kwaye ngeli xesha elidlulileyo, amaxesha amaninzi, baye bafumana amava kunye namaxesha abuhlungu, amava abuhlungu, iziganeko eziye zashiya ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxhatshazwa ngokomzimba, ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi, phakathi kwezinye iziganeko.
Kuyinyani ukuba ixesha elidlulileyo alinakuguqulwa, nangona kunjalo, linokuba ngamava axabiseke kakhulu ngoku.
Umsebenzi we-Emotional Wounds ngumbhali uBernardo Stamateas ubonisa uluhlu lweendlela zokuzivocavoca kunye nemisebenzi elula eya kukunceda ngokuqinisekileyo uphilise ixesha lakho elidlulileyo.
Amanxeba oMvakalelo anikwe umsebenzi wokuxhasa ukuba uhambe umendo, ukuguqula iinkumbulo ezibuhlungu. Sisipho esikhoyo sokunceda abanye abantu, "inkumbulo yokugxekwa", kwisiqinisekiso sangaphakathi, "iinkumbulo ezibuhlungu" kumava enkululeko.
"Iinkumbulo ezibuhlungu", kumathuba okukhula; "ikhwele" ekuzicingeni; “iinkumbulo zobuntwana” kwixesha elizayo elizele luloyiso; "iimpazamo kunye neentsilelo" ekufundeni, kunye "nenkumbulo yeyona nto imbi ebomini bam", ngomzuzu ongcono owawunawo.
Le nto isehleleyo isenza buhlungu, kwaye into engenzekanga kuthi inokuba buhlungu. Enye ibhekisela kwintlungu yexesha elidlulileyo kwizinto esingaphiliyo; ngelixa enye yintlungu yexesha elizayo ngenxa yoko singakhange sikufezekise.
Ngalo msebenzi mhle kangaka, umbhali ujonge ukusa abafundi bakhe kwixesha elidlulileyo ngenjongo, yokuba ukusukela kwelo nqanaba, abantu bapholise amanxeba abo, lo gama babe ngabantu abomeleleyo abakhokelela ekubeni bajongane nobomi obuyinyani.
Ndifuna utshintsho
Ngokuqinisekileyo, baninzi abantu abakhalela utshintsho, kuba baziva bebambekile kwaye bangaboni nkqubela phambili. Kaloku, kuba bejamelene nobunzima kubomi babo bomtshato.
Abanye abayazi eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuphatha nokufundisa abantwana babo. Abanye banengxaki yokunxibelelana nabanye. Abaninzi banezakhono, kodwa abayazi indlela yokubonisa.
Kulo msebenzi umangalisayo wombhali uBernardo Stamateas, umntu onomdla uya kufumana iingcebiso ezingapheliyo kunye nezicwangciso ezilula ukuzisebenzisa, kwaye zikuvumela ukuba ukwandise ukukhuthaza kwakho okuya kukukhokelela ekuveliseni iingcamango ezintsha.
Kanye nokufumana abacebisi, ootitshala bokukufundisa. Cwangcisa kwaye ube yinkokeli yakho yeeprojekthi zakho. Yenza imikhwa enamandla kunye neenkqubo zokuqhubeka nokukhula njengomntu.
Ukuze ulahle ukuhambelana, kwaye unokubethelela yonke into obusoloko uyilangazelela. Lixesha lokuba ndifuna utshintsho.
iziphumo ezingaqhelekanga
Kulo msebenzi Iziphumo eziNgaqhelekanga, umbhali uBernardo Stamateas, ubonisa uluhlu lweendlela ezilula kunye nezicwangciso ukuze wenze amaphupha akho abe yinyaniso.
Siye sabona ukuba eluntwini kukho abantu abathi, nangona babenexesha elinzima ngaphambili, bakwazile ukuphumelela, mhlawumbi ngokwakha inkampani enobutyebi, ukuba ziinkokeli zobupolitika ezihlonelwayo, okanye ukufikelela usukelo olwalubonakala lungenakwenzeka.
Imfihlo kukuba bonke abo bantu babesazi kwasekuqaleni ukuba yintoni na eyona nto iphezulu abafuna ukufikelela kuyo, kwaye bakhokela ubomi babo ngandlela-thile ngemigaqo ethile eyabakhokelela empumelelweni.
Imalunga nomntu oneenjongo kunye neenjongo ezichaziweyo, ezicacileyo nezinokwenzeka. Inkqubo yeenkolelo kunye neengcinga, ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, iyahlula umntu ngaphakathi kwe-agglomerate.
Abantu bangabanini bemali yesigidi: ingqondo. Into oyicingayo kwaye ubhengeze ukuba ufuna ukuba yiyo, yinto oya kuba yiyo kwaye uyifezekise. Into oyisekayo kwiingcinga zakho, uya kuba yiyo. Yile ndlela iincwadi zikaBernardo Stamateas ziqinisekisa ngayo.
musani ukundiphatha kakubi
Incwadi ethi Musa ukundiphatha kakubi, ngumbhali uBernardo Stamateas, inomxholo wokuzinceda osifundisa indlela yokuqonda nokuthintela umonakalo wokusetyenziswa kakubi ngamazwi.
Indlela esinxulumana ngayo ikholisa ukuba nobundlobongela kwaye ingxamile yonke imihla. Kubalulekile ukuba siqaphele ukuba kufuneka sifunde ukubonakalisa ukukhungatheka, umsindo, ukucaphuka, ukungxamiseka ngendlela efanelekileyo, ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo ezihlala zifihliwe kwaye azizange ziphiliswe ngaphakathi kwethu.
Umxholo walo msebenzi ubonisa izixhobo eziluncedo kakhulu ekuncedeni ukoyisa ukuxhatshazwa.
Kubalulekile ukucaca ukuba abantu bayaphilisa xa sithetha, kwaye xa inxalenye yethu yangaphakathi, kukho umnqweno wokwenene wokunxibelelana kakuhle nangempumelelo nabantu esibathandayo, kunye nokusingqongileyo kunye nathi.
Xa umntu ebonisa umdla wakhe ekuthatheni inxaxheba kwabanye abantu, kwaye eyazi indlela yokunxibelelana nehlabathi liphela, usondele ngakumbi kubunyani bakhe ukuba yinyani, kwaye ukongeza kwiminqweno yakhe ayilandeleyo, uya kuyifezekisa. .
Ndingazoyisa
Kukho amaxesha abalulekileyo, apho abantu bengenako ukuyeka: emva kokoyiswa, okanye emva kokuphumelela. Kwimeko apho kuya kufuneka woyiswe, lixesha lokuzingisa.
Kwimeko apho impumelelo ifunyenwe, kufuneka ibhiyozelwe, kodwa, ukugcina engqondweni ukuba omnye weyona mivuzo mikhulu yoloyiso yithuba lokuqhubeka ngakumbi.
ukusilela ngempumelelo
Abantu badalelwe ukuba baphile bangabikho. Zonke iziphoso zethu zifihla iziqhamo zokunandipha amathuba amakhulu.
"Into ebalulekileyo kukufunda kwimpazamo, ulibale iinkcukacha kwaye uqhubeke phambili"
Umxholo wokungaphumeleli sisigaba, asisosikhundla, asilodonga, ngumnyango omkhulu oya kukuthatha ukuya kwinqanaba elitsha loloyiso.
Ngelixa iphoso okanye impazamo, ebomini linqaku elikhupha amandla afihlakeleyo.
amandla akho angaphakathi
Esinye seziseko eziphambili zokuba umntu akhule kwaye aphuhlise amandla angaphakathi kukukwazi ukuzibona ngokwethu.
Ke, ngokusekwe koku, siyakwazi ukuba sicinga ntoni, sisebenza njani, kowuphi umba.
Bernardo Stamateas Quotes
Le ngcali yezengqondo inomdla, inenani elilungileyo lamabinzana, esabelana nawe nawe:
Ungaze uyeke ukukhula. Ukukhula ngobukrelekrele kuya kukwenza ufezekise iinjongo, woyise. Kwaye ukukhula ngobuntu kuya kuthetha ukuba yonke into oyithethayo inokuyonwabela.”
“Umntu ongafanelekiyo unenjongo yokulawula ukuzithemba kwethu, asenze singaziva singento phambi kwabanye, ukuze ngale ndlela akhanye aze abe sisazulu sendalo iphela.”
"Musa ukuzibophelela kwabo bangonwabanga ngempumelelo yakho."
Amaxesha amaninzi asonwabi kuba sixakekile sizama ukukholisa abanye okanye sithatha uxanduva olungafanelekanga lwabanye.
Ukuba uyonwabele uBernardo Stamateas kunye neencwadi zakhe, siyakumema ukuba uqhubeke ufunda amanqaku anomdla apha: